DangerouslySafe(sadist male) |
3 years ago •
May 31, 2020
3 years ago •
May 31, 2020
DangerouslySafe(sadist male) • May 31, 2020
It sounds like this has caused you some hurt and frustration. That is never fun to deal with but i think you have the right idea in searching for answers. Everyone has bad experiences and gaining understanding that helps you grow is best thing that comes from them.
Azzabackam and tallslenderguy both stated things that I agree with and hit on some of my first thoughts. It could be that he got scared but it could be a different emotion or logical thought that made him leave. I don't know enough about the situation to narrow down what I think might have triggered his response but I will say that two people talking about 1 topic can have very different definitions ,thoughts, emotions, etc on that topic or kink. Its important to define and understand kinks or activities so that any ambiguity is removed. It also it is very important to understand how someone's personality plays into that activity as it's been defined. There is a very big risk to spanking someone if expectations, desires and personalities are not understood. If your reaction was to cry because it hurt, which for you means "I really like this," and he expected extreme excitement, then that could make him panic or rethink the situation. It could be if you got super excited wanting more of a beating and his full idea of spanking was a few smacks on the ass then this too could cause him feel overwhelmed and to rethink the situation. Sometimes you can click with a partner very quickly where it seems you are just naturally on the same page but in my opinion this doesn't happen often and it is almost impossible to connect this way with text messages alone because body language and voice inflection say as much if not more than words alone. I would also suggest taking some time in a vanilla meet up as first meeting. |
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