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Kara​(sub female){Dark Roast}
9 months ago • 10/19/2020 12:58 am
Kara​(sub female){Dark Roast} • 10/19/2020 12:58 am
ElizaEmma wrote:
Not all subs, in fact most do not, give up their rights - that's more of a Master/slave dynamic.


Honestly, it's not even a slave thing. In a consentual M/s, the basic rights given on the basis on humanity don't go away. It's still about mutual pleasure and desire, but there's simply more of a desire to yield preference to a trusted person. I don't know anyone in a physical dynamic who doesn't see themselves as humans or doesn't still have preferences.
NoClvrNickname​(sub female){Collared &}
9 months ago • 10/18/2020 11:55 pm
ElizaEmma wrote:
"once you submit to your dom you are his and must be honest obedient and loyal you have given up your right and must never question you dom or bull or you will be severely punished for it! are you will to do everything you dom tell you to do? if not you better no be his sub"!

It must be nice when your worldview is so simple. The dynamics between the Dom and the sub varies greatly and at the end of the day it is what works between those two (and/or all the parities involved, if they are in an open/poly relationship). Not all subs, in fact most do not, give up their rights - that's more of a Master/slave dynamic. Some brat-tamer-Doms absolutely love being questioned. From someone with masochistic tendencies and craves pain, sometimes the worst punishment is "no punishment".

There is no one-size-fit-all approach.


^^^ AGREED. I’ve been in a D/s dynamic for years & this is absolutely NOT what my Sir expects of me. These are absolutely NOT standard-issue rules & if a Dom immediately makes demands like these, ESPECIALLY knowing you are inexperienced, GTFO, that’s a whole box of red flags.
DrWakko
9 months ago • 10/18/2020 10:45 pm
DrWakko • 10/18/2020 10:45 pm
Gay male Bdsm energy is very different than straight or lesbian Bdsm energy. I suggest going to your local leather bar and asking the bartender that you are interested in Bdsm. He will either direct you to someone or have someone come up and talk to you.

Remember a kink relationship starts with a strong vanilla foundation.

DW
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ElizaEmma​(sub female){NotLooking}
9 months ago • 10/18/2020 10:38 pm
ElizaEmma​(sub female){NotLooking} • 10/18/2020 10:38 pm
"once you submit to your dom you are his and must be honest obedient and loyal you have given up your right and must never question you dom or bull or you will be severely punished for it! are you will to do everything you dom tell you to do? if not you better no be his sub"!

It must be nice when your worldview is so simple. The dynamics between the Dom and the sub varies greatly and at the end of the day it is what works between those two (and/or all the parities involved, if they are in an open/poly relationship). Not all subs, in fact most do not, give up their rights - that's more of a Master/slave dynamic. Some brat-tamer-Doms absolutely love being questioned. From someone with masochistic tendencies and craves pain, sometimes the worst punishment is "no punishment".

There is no one-size-fit-all approach.
realfreakydad​(dom male){NO}
9 months ago • 10/18/2020 10:28 pm

Re: Inexperienced sub looking for advice

realfreakydad​(dom male){NO} • 10/18/2020 10:28 pm
GagFan wrote:
I am a young submissive guy who wants to submit to another man, and I would like to get some advice from more experienced Dom's or subs. I'm mostly interested in learning what is expected of a submissive and how to submit properly.
once you submit to your dom you are his and must be honest obedient and loyal you have given up your right and must never question you dom or bull or you will be severely punished for it! are you will to do everything you dom tell you to do? if not you better no be his sub!
GentleDomforyou
10 months ago • 09/24/2020 3:38 am
GentleDomforyou • 09/24/2020 3:38 am
It’s simple. It’s just like dancing. He leads and you follow. If you step on his toes, that’s on him not you. He is supposed to figure out how to get you there. You job is as simple as doing what feels right.
GagFan​(sub male)
10 months ago • 09/23/2020 8:01 am

Inexperienced sub looking for advice

GagFan​(sub male) • 09/23/2020 8:01 am
I am a young submissive guy who wants to submit to another man, and I would like to get some advice from more experienced Dom's or subs. I'm mostly interested in learning what is expected of a submissive and how to submit properly.