First.. I just want to say (hopefully this is appropriate.) that I’m super proud of you. As a new person to this lifestyle. It can be intimidating to post an open blog or forum for advice. Using your peers and the community around you is the easiest way to gain knowledge from those who have a more seasoned experience within this lifestyle.
( I myself am still considered a fledgling in the community. But I’ve sure as hell have learned a ton!)
My advice to you is be clear with what you will and will not tolerate. If it’s easier to do that somewhere on your profile, go for it. Type up a little synopsis of what you don’t want someone to send you.
Or if the situation is basically during the DM’ing stage . I typically tell all of my lovely submissive friends to let the people know within a few messages. That you are someone who takes their time to develop a connection with another. That they have to treat you with care. Anything rushed or asked too soon will turn you off.
(This is the nice way of saying “Don’t ask me for shit I’m uncomfortable with or you will be blocked.”)
Usually a dominant who is interested in building a solid foundation. Will take their time studying you, learning you and going with your flow. A nurturing dominant will take the time that is necessary to win over your mind and emotions. Sexual gratification is usually the last step in any serious dynamic.
I say all of that to basically tell you. That setting the tone in the beginning of being vetted by a dominant. Let’s the dominant know what your boundaries are.
I wish you luck in your budding submissive journey!