Long-Distance D/s Activities/Assignments

Long-Distance D/s Activities/Assignments

Avanova​(sub female){owned} • Nov 9, 2021

Hi,

I recently made a post asking for tips and suggestions concerning long-distance D/s relationships and I got some great responses. Now I am interested in finding out some of the long-distance D/s activities/assignments that you guys have come up with or have heard about. I really appreciate all of the help and support that the people on this site provide.

IronWorld​(sadist male) • Nov 9, 2021

Writing and journal assignments tend to be the standard. With phones containing cameras and microphone, photographic and video assignments can be added. I personally liked giving writing assignments that tied to the development of the relationship. For example. when choosing a slave name, I would look up three potential names, and tell the submissive to write a paragraph for each name based on the etymology of that name and then whichever paragraph was the best would determine the slave name.

Avanova​(sub female){owned} • Nov 9, 2021

Thanks. Is the submissive supposed to write down their experience of the assignment they were given and then the Dom reads it? Could you give me a few more examples of types of assignments that would go into the journal?

IronWorld​(sadist male) • Nov 9, 2021

That's entirely up to the Dom and the sub in the relationship. It sounds like a good enough idea to me, so go for it.

Its been a long time since I've assigned writing assignments, so I dont have anything off the top of my head.

ButterfliesAndCuffs​(sub female){LJ} • Nov 9, 2021

Writing assignments can be like what you said writing about what you did over video - what you liked and didn’t like. If it’s used as a punishment, it could be writing lines but personally that seems pointless to me. If you’re going to write or rather order someone to write, have it be about something.

JustGreenie • Nov 10, 2021

There are a few things you can do regarding assignments. Depending on the type of media you use, apple, android and so on,

you can share notes- about your dynamic and keep it continuous so you are able to see how you have evolved

journal entries- Something you both can share with one another so if you have problems verbally communicating how you are feeling you have this outlet, so you D/s is able to communicate effectively

daily positive self affirmations- These should be about yourself, not a general idea

Learn together, choose a topic to read about and discuss the pros and cons, how it made you feel and would it be something you would pursue with one another.

It all depends on the depth and devotion you are putting into it and how it will affect with daily life.

Good Luck

littleMagpie​(sub female) • Nov 10, 2021

Journaling doesn’t work for me because we both have too little time for it.

We would sit at the start of every week and make a planner, write down the tasks for each day and our work schedules, days where we may be less inclined to be in the mindset - and it was a simpler way to make sure the tasks were achievable each day.

He’d send me affirmations, things he believed and where I was to write them, I would body write where told and had to add my own as well, and send pics so he knew it was done.

Lines as a punishment worked because I have no interest in that at all lol.

LongerJohnny​(dom male){B&C} • Nov 11, 2021

Lines are classic! 😝
I have yet to meet a sub who actually liked them, or at least didn't mind.
I'd like to shake the hand of the Sadistic fuck who came up with that idea hahahaha!

LongerJohnny​(dom male){B&C} • Nov 11, 2021

That depends on the reason for writing the lines. The may themselves seem to be pointless but perhaps the punishment is the frustration or discomfort or pain it causes the sub - even the seeming pointlessness of it.

Being punished by something as banal as writing the same thing over and over could have the side effect of making you feel equally pointless, and that would be pretty punishing.

All Doms are different, but I have never given a sub a punishment that did not pertain to whatever earned her the punishment, so it is about reinforcement.

Spellbound Wytch{Mr. Parker} • Nov 11, 2021

Dude! WTF?!? 🤣

I just HAVE to share a story here: I'm old enough to have been in school at a time when teachers were actually still allowed to discipline the kids in their classes without getting cancelled over it. I can still see the long and morose face of one particularly despised teacher of mine from what we used to call junior high. He was a nasty, mean SOB with a foul temper. I'm not going to delve into the physical punishments he was so fond of - but rather THIS: "I will not infract upon the rules and regulations established by Mr. Maddalozo in order to maintain and conduct an orderly classroom situation."

Read that sentence again! Any time any student in his classes misbehaved, the entire class had to write that long assed sentence 35 times - due the next day and on top of any other homework assigned by him and any other teachers. I will never forget that wording or him even on my death bed. I hate him as much today as I did when I was thirteen years old. 🤣