How do I find a submissive woman (online roleplay) here?

How do I find a submissive woman (online roleplay) here?

Care Taker​(dom male) • Aug 20, 2018

I have been looking for a submissive/slave here for 1-2 months without any success. I did find some submissive men who wanted to make me their dom but I am not interested in men. Also, I am an amateur in BDSM so maybe that pushes women away ... Any tips from someone experienced?

Fudbar​(dom male){❤️❤️❤️} • Aug 20, 2018

I think you're probably right about the amateur status; I also think your name and location probably don't help.

"Trainer" has a semi-formal meaning in BDSM that implies a level of experience you don't have.

Your location is not ideal either. There is a great deal of Islamophobia in North America, many subs want someone that they could potentially meet up with IRL, your country has a horrible reputation for women's rights, and even if all that isn't a factor, a sub still might be legitimately concerned that her conversations are being monitored by your countries intelligence service. Last I checked, participation in BDSM or any sexual interactions outside of marriage are a stoning offence in those parts.

Not judging you,these are just the facts on the ground.

Care Taker​(dom male) • Aug 20, 2018

" Last I checked, participation in BDSM or any sexual interactions outside of marriage are a stoning offence in those parts "
No one has been stoned to death here ever, by law. In some rural areas a group of people might do that but it is still extremely rare and always illegal.

" "Trainer" has a semi-formal meaning in BDSM that implies a level of experience you don't have "
So I should change my name to something that feels less experienced?

" a sub still might be legitimately concerned that her conversations are being monitored by your countries intelligence service "
They might be monitoring the conversations but acting on a BDSM relationship that exists online won't even be the last thing on their to do list.

Fudbar​(dom male){❤️❤️❤️} • Aug 20, 2018

Fair points. I could go into the finer details of 'law' and the power and influence of local jirgas there, but honor killings happen, and although technically extrajudicial, the rate is still well over 500 per year.

I am aware that there is pushback against the religious right there, and if you're here, you're probably on the good side of that fight. I wish you and the younger generation there the best of luck in fighting back against that.

As for the name, yes.. I think a change might help.

Care Taker​(dom male) • Aug 20, 2018

" I could go into the finer details of 'law' and the power and influence of local jirgas there, but honor killings happen, and although technically extrajudicial, the rate is still well over 500 per year "
A country's law is in its constitution. A jirga or some people may consider their rulings or themselves as the law but it doesn't matter what they think, they're not the law.
500 per year in a country with a population of more than 200,000,000. I'd consider it extremely rare.

" As for the name, yes.. I think a change might help "
I'll think of a new one then

Kara​(sub female){Dark Roast} • Aug 20, 2018

Of course submissive women want someone more experienced. Sorry, but that is the case. I don't allow someone who read about an operation to perform the surgery.....same for D/s.

Most new people stumble into this with a partner or by getting involved with their local community. I don't see either being an option for you, correct ? My best advice in that situation is to educate yourself like crazy and to be patient.

As for the name.....change it. You can't train anyone; you haven't been trained yourself.

Asteria​(neither female) • Aug 20, 2018

Maybe instead of looking for a submissive try to talk to people about their experiences? Listen to what experienced members of The Cage have to say, read forum, blogs. Try to visit chat, find friends. Ask questions. It is also some way of learning and educating yourself.

curiouskittyy​(sub female){GentlemanX} • Aug 21, 2018

I agree with sparkles after receiving the same message. I could tell it was a generic message sent out to multiple people.. and I was right. I think it could have been a bit more personalised, perhaps reading profiles first will help. Good luck on your journey x