How best organize my first GB by myself?

How best organize my first GB by myself?

Gigsx​(sub female) • Mar 19, 2023

Hey everyone it's nice to meet you all! So recently I was in the process of organizing my first gangbang with someone, but as it turns out he sucks and is no longer in the picture. But I've wanted this for way too long to let that stop me. Thing is, I'm a bit nervous putting one together myself as a solo woman. I've never even attended one though by no means am I inexperienced.

I guess what I'm asking is if anyone has resources, tips, advice or anything of the sort. He was going to participate of course but what made me most comfortable was he was also going to be a safety net of sorts. I'm trying to see if my other FWB will but am unsure.

I have a tiny apartment so I'm assuming a hotel is necessary. But even beyond that I'm not even sure how to vet people properly and how to make it a good experience for all involved. Anyway I'm rambling I apologize I'm just determined to make this happen.

Thank you for any information at all! Safe playing!

Bunnie • Mar 20, 2023

It’s not an area I have experience with, so my suggestions are based solely on what came to mind when reading this.
A safety person (as you already have suggested you’re aware of and trying to organise), in my eyes, would seem essential. I’d probably even go as far as to suggesting someone not/not wanting to be, involved in the actual scene. A female? A “neutral” male? A couple? People you know and trust, obviously. That’s where I’d start.

Accommodation… not at your home, would be my suggestion. Not just for space concerns, but also that bit more “anonymity” regarding privacy/safety.

Another thing I would look into would be Std checks for anyone wanting to take part… regardless of penetration style/how fluids will be exchanged.

As this could fall under your swingers scene, perhaps asking in your local swingers circles could produce some great connections and feedback in regards to vetting.

This is all that comes to mind for now, but if anything else pops up, I’ll add more. Good luck!

IowaDom​(dom male) • Mar 20, 2023

Well, I can think of a few things I'd want to know, and it will likely turn a few away, but to me thats the way it would be!
1. Std Checks - definitely
2. Protection required for all
3. I would want a name, birth year and city, state - and run a backround check (you can get em for 5 or 10 bucks)
4. As mentioned, defintiely have somebody (preferably a large somebody) there for your security
5. I would make sure all cell phones and recording devices were checked at the door
6. Drivers license would be compared to info given at the door, and a pic taken of the dl
7. Some kind of release signed by all - releasing you from any and all liabilitry from any risks, known or unknown.
8. A "code of conduct" while in the scene - spacifically stating hard limits.
9. definitely NOT at your home - when the party is over, its over.

That would about do it .. but in all of this BE CAREFUL and play safe!

~ID~

Literate Lycan​(dom male) • Mar 20, 2023

I have zero knowledge in the topic; however, I did look it up and saw a few resources. The first was a podcast:

https://swingingdownunder.podbean.com/e/how-to-arrange-a-gangbang/

I didn’t listen to it but may give it the once over. In addition to agreeing with Bunnie and IowaDom’s advice above, the below comments and questions were from the podcast page itself and for your internal thoughts:

- Why do you desire it and what do you hope to get out of it? (Your profile already covers this, but it’s a good question for anyone)
- As IowaDom indicated above, what are the rules, boundaries and desires? (Set them in writing, so you understand them too)
- The podcast apparently covers “Vetting” which I concur with - both STD and background. You don’t need a serial anything showing up.
- Logistics of the event and planning. (I’d recommend not divulging the location of the event to anyone beyond your most trusted sources until the morning of the event - and telling anyone who is attending not to announce it publicly).
- What to expect on the night and definitely aftercare afterwards. Have it set up so you take care of you? You may be riding on an emotional and even physical high when you’re done - do you have a net to catch you when you fall.

I would add a few simple thoughts. If you don’t have someone you trust to cover your back on the day, perhaps consider hiring someone as a professional (bouncer, security). If you are hiring someone, make sure they are a professional. Large and imposing and confident in their requirements and abilities. And make sure the individual knows the rules, too.

Also have your dial a friend who knows you are doing this but won’t be in attendance. Maybe even provide them a list of the attendees in the event it goes sideways. Not that it will, but why not cover your options.

In the end, be safe. Measure twice.

And concur with thoughts on Code of Conduct and boundaries. Ensure anyone attending knows the rules.

I'mME • Mar 21, 2023

OP,

Ditto on Bunnie. The other 2 cagers have some useful things in their lists, didn't listen to the podcast.

I'm going to lay it on the line. This is not something you do by yourself, period.
You need someone who can handle a man or men that could get out of line, whether you are experienced or not, has no bearing on that. They should not be a participant, and ideally they should be someone you could trust your life to. FWB does not cut the mustard.

Things You Need To Know, Have in Place

You have to know what you will do and what you will not do. Put it in writing. Kissing, cock sucking , swallowing or not, anal or not, DP or not, PIV, slapping, spanking , choking, humiliation, degradation, hair pulling, etc.

How many men, age range, vetting process, grooming choices for the men, how long do you want to be gangbanged, (how do you want to vet them , STD/STI (how many months are you willing to take on this) when they need to submit their information, drug/alcohol rules.

Do you want to allow vids, pics?

This is why you need someone who only has your welfare at heart.


There are men who love gangbangs , I would not call them professionals, but that is the type of men you may try for the first time. How you go about finding them is another subject.
You don't say what your experience is but I hope just the few things I listed will give you a pause, so that you realize all the moving parts that a gang bang consists of.

mastertdowns • May 3, 2023

I am not going to repeat what was said above but instead offer my services as I live in the area. I do have over 15 consecutive years training in martial arts.

What you need security / body guard wise is someone with a proper martial arts background, preferably training for years, and is at minimum a black belt or equivalent level. The individual should know how to safely restrain individuals in a range of joint locks for easy escorting.

It is a must that this individual not participate and clearly understands your safety cues. They will do what is necessary to pull you from the room if needed to ensure your safety.

Make sure you charge some money for this as you and your body guard will need neighboring rooms. This will help vet some of the individuals and insure you get more serious inquiries.

Practice, practice, practice. Your escape routine and safety cues can't be taken for granted.

In the liability it will state the potential use of force, proper techniques will be used based on the escalation of the situation.

Don't hesitate to reach out to me if you have any further questions.

Miki • May 3, 2023

Wow.. gang bangs sure have changed in a short period of time.

What you're asking about is of the kind I had never come across, that being one involving completely strange men.
No offense but officially organizing a "ride the train" sounds like a Rube Goldberg way to something so deliciously basic.

But that's just my thoughts on it. Whatever churns your butter is all that matters.

When I've been gang-banged, it was with guys I knew and a small number of guys I didn't know directly but my acquaintences vouched for them.

No "list" posted on the bedroom door, just the given understanding of a few things. The "stop" signal "just in case" and no impact play or anything that would lead to long term or permanent marking.

"Just take me however they want" and if there to be any other recreation in the other room--- "Clean up after yourselves" and no illicit substances whatsoever.

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Not to ignore the obvious when it comes to men you don't know, of course, STD checks and rubbers should go without saying, but say it anyway.

There was some stuff I took for granted / didn't need as everyone was known to me directly and indirectly with regard to being clear of STDs. Otherwise, since I am sterile, there was no concern over getting knocked-up.

***But I can't emphasize it enough, my experiences are quite a bit different from what you're proposing***.

Sorry if this wasn't much help, but since it might in some small way I posted.

Have a blast!

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BikerWilly • May 3, 2023

I spoke extensively with a girl who did an organized "Gang Rape".
The event was mostly organized by word of mouth for a set date. This was through careful administration via her friends, that she wanted to have involved with the event. (Naturally, only SOME friends were informed, the ones who were pretty close to her.) The final admission ticket was with a current STD check from Planned Parenthood or their own doctor at the door, shown to the security guy before they got through the gate .
No condoms were required. She wanted to see what it was like. That's what the STD check was for, to eliminate condoms.
There were no real strangers at the event. Everyone was someone known to her, or vouched for by close friends.
She made a deal with an ex-miltary security guy, 6 feet and plenty of muscle. His job was to just watch over her to make sure nothing untoward happened. Her offer to him was if he watched over her during her event, then she would drop by his house the next weekend, and be his "rape victim" for the night, which included full body rights including oral, vaginal, and anal access.
No alcohol or drugs allowed. Anyone under any kind of influence would be turned away at the door, but everyone knew the rules and showed up clean and sober. It actually went very well. (There were enough of her known friends there, that if something had happened, they would have gladly jumped in with the security guy to oust the offender. But as it was, she said it went very nicely and everyone fulfilled their roles perfectly.)
She wanted to be forced, but not beaten up, so striking or violence was out. She expected to be manhandled, stripped, displayed, and then held down while being used by all the guys, along with being insulted and threatened and told she was about to whore out for them. She had her expectations and her code of conduct known to all prior to the event. The rape was progressive, that is, her mouth was used first, then twat, then ass. You could go on to the next opening, but if you wanted to use the first one again, it was only if you had not progressed to another opening already. (That is, no fucking her in the ass, then getting a blowjob after. But you could make her suck you again after a blowjob, before you went to another hole.)
The actual event was held in a local auto salvage place, on the hood of a car and on the ground in front of it, inside the salvage business. Scenario was "Girl with car trouble winds up victim of a local gang." The car was selected for having a flat hood, and being the right height for a rape, and the area around it raked clean of metal and glass pieces.
The "hold-down" crew swapped in and out so they could participate as well.
Scene was they approach her, start making comments and doing things like asking if she was a good fuck, etc, then start touching her, and finally start undressing her. She slapped and hit back, (but not very hard), and was quickly "Overpowered" and all her clothing removed. It was preplanned that they would threaten to all fuck her in the ass, to which her proposal was to give everyone a blowjob if they wouldn't do that. So they tell her that would be OK, and she blows everyone. One of the hold-down crew knelt behind her, held her arms behind her, and pushed her head down onto the cocks if the crowd thought she wasn't willing enough. (Along with plenty of comments along the lines of "You look REALLY pretty with a cock jammed down your throat!") She finishes sucking everyone off, and they then put her up on the hood of the car (On a couple of blankets for comfort), a couple guys pin her arms out, and she gets raped by everyone who wanted to do her. She begs and pleads for mercy, but everyone is busy and their only answer is "It won't take so long for us to finish if you put your back into it and fuck us really hard!", and so she did. She flailed and fought but at the same time gave everyone a really good screw. Some of the guys wanted to have her blow them while she was on her hands and knees in front of the car, while someone else did her from the back, so that was done as well. Finally, they did the anal rape, with her really outraged and struggling (fake) on the hood fo the car, and winding up on the blankets on the ground in front of it. One of the guys who just liked blowjobs, skipped the vagina and anal, and had the idea of threatening to kick her out on the road and make her walk home naked, unless she earned her clothes back by giving that guy a final blowjob in front of everyone. (He had told her of this idea previously, and she thought it sounded like a really perverted thing, making her suck a cock to get her own clothes back, and so she told him to go ahead with it at the event ) The guys all departed the scene, she and her safety man and the auto salvage guy cleaned up and locked the place back up, and then they dropped her off at home. She said she had an awesome night, and really enjoyed it. She wants to try another one, in a warehouse. I volunteered to make some retention equipment, so she can be secured for everyone's use in different positions, so I may be making some equipment for that one. We'll see. She envisions that event as more of a "captured heiress held for ransom after being kidnapped, and gets shared out by the gang at the warehouse where they are holding her while everyone is waiting for Daddy to come up with the money". (That one would be indoors to avoid the weather, and have a real bed she could be used on.)
So it DOES take some good planning and plenty of thought, and using the friends you have, if you trust them, as a resource. She told me the security guy was well pleased the following weekend, and volunteered to be her security at any events in the future, so she is covered on that score. The scene was mostly people who knew her, and there were no threatening exchanges at the actual event. It went very smoothly, and everyone seemed pleased.
(I should point out again that her "rape" was carefully planned out and done just as she expected, and according to the arranged script.)

Miki • May 4, 2023

Hmm.. Come to think of it, what I should have included in or written instead of my potentially TMI post:

My experiences involved work friends and trusted associates of theirs and maybe a neighbor or two--- (not like it was a bus load or anything) But it came about as a side activity to a party/get-together that was already going on.

A touch (very small touch, I am of small stature and weigh nothing--) of some "social lubricant" that being one (1) stiff drink and I was all in.

So because mine were a progression of an already planned event I can't speak to "organizing a gang bang" as a stand-alone adventure.

No experience there, sorry...

tallslenderguy​(other male) • May 4, 2023

Not sure the OP is around or has seen any of these responses, but i think it a cool topic worthy of discussion.

i have experience as a receiver (gay total bottom here).

Since you (the OP) are "...by no means inexperienced," i'm guessing you've thought of most, if not all of, the risks. i would think any experienced kinkster is familiar with risk. Indeed, for many, that is part of the appeal.

So, to me, the first question would be to identify what it is you want out of the GB?

i would not suggest your home. A hotel can work, one with an outside entrance vs one where participants have to walk past a check in desk. The less scrutinized the participants feel, the freer they will feel to participate. Having a friend or gate keeper is really helpful, but i've done it without one. i was in a casino in Vegas and posted an ad on a hook up site with my room number and was waiting ass up with my door unlocked so guys could walk in, mount and fuck without any hassle or impediment.

Another venue would be a sex club or ABS type setting, they're everywhere. i've been to one in Portland that was an old theater. It had a stage with a bed, and when i went there was a man and woman having sex on the bed, lot's of watchers and willing participants. In many ways, that can be a safer bet to weed out people looking to rob, hurt or do harm because it's public, and definitely easier because people are already there for that purpose.

Also, you can take PrEP ahead of time, as well as doxycycline to help protect from STD's.
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