Long distance domme/sub relationships

Long distance domme/sub relationships

Subby Showoff​(sub male) • Sep 22, 2024

Wanted some advice for a long distance domme/sub arrangement. How would you go about finding someone to help train the physical aspect? I think ideally they would still listen to the domme as far as what to do. Where and how would we ask for someone to fill that roll? What are the pros and cons to this type of relationship? Any suggestions or insight would be very helpful. Thanks everyone!

Sincorrigible​(sub female) • Sep 22, 2024

In my experience, if you build something slowly, something good, and agree to be guided by your LDR domme, you can navigate your local scene, together, and find relevant partners, with relevant experience, for you to do what you both have agreed you want to do, re training or experiences..

But this will likely take a lot of time and effort on both your parts. And I would encourage an understanding on both your parts to be careful and respectful of the local folk you approach. Make sure you don't make them feel used etc.

The pros : if you have found someone LDR who mentally, intellectually, spiritually, emotionally, kinkwise, or any combination of the above, gives you what you need, that is huge. Don't ignore the value in that. The con is that sometimes you might crave the physical with them, and that might be hard to navigate. Only open and frank discussion gets you through that. There is also the possible con that, if you do explore physically with someone else, feelings may start to come into it. Again, open and frank discussion.

Kelpi • Sep 23, 2024

Stay true to who you are with always be honest. Don't try to be shady or hide anything from your other. When told to say how you feel don't hold back or think that it is better to hide how you feel. It never is a good idea and ends up causing more trouble in the end. Give it a little time to see if it is real and when you know don't hold back open up and let your feelings out. I have lost more because she would hold back because she did not want to "burden me" or "upset me". Give me a sub who will open up and let me know what I said or did wrong and let me fix things. Yes even a Dom/Domme can make a mistake. My biggest one so far is getting old. Be true to who collars you. Look at her as your queen and serve her as a knight of old. No questions and without a second thought. If Something bothers you do it first and ask about it after. Just remember be honest with yourself as with her. If you have doubts about who you are with then you must stay true to your feelings. Be well be honest and most of all be faithful to her and yourself.

I'mME • Sep 23, 2024

Kelpi,

If Something bothers you do it first and ask about it after.

In open and honest relationship that has communication channels open, why would someone do something they were not sure about it, then bring it up?

Ms MaryJane • Sep 24, 2024

What does the Domme doing the physical part get? you say you already have a mommy, so this other Domme does the physical training and is supposed to take orders from your mommy? I just don't see the benefit the helper gets. Does all this work for what...a thanks and have a good day til next time?