Slaves, what are the ideal traits of a master?

MelanQuinn​(sub female) • Oct 23, 2024

Wow ok yea good to know but for some reason I can only message certain people and no actually I keep getting 50-60 year olds I have a age gap problem 😂 and the ones I try to message it won’t let me 😅 and since im new people keep confusing me on what I want 😆

Titles are more of a concept than a code

Literate Lycan​(dom male) • Oct 23, 2024

Titles can have a range of meaning and can be somewhat fluid and interchangeable within a degree, though some titles are exclusively used on the left side of the slash while others are used on the right. By that I mean Master or Dominant as opposed to slave or submissive. There is a discussion or even debate on the intricasies, but in my opinion, it is simply a starting point for how you see yourself and you'll evolve from there. You tend to feel you are on the right side of the slash - with desires to submit in both bedroom and life to the right individual. So referring to yourself as a submissive is an excellent starting point. As you develop a rapport with another individual, you get to determine how you interact with them in your dynamic. Maybe you find you have slave tendencies that you want to act on within the safety of your dynamic relationship as it evolves. But back on point, you get to determine what your submission looks like and means between yourself and whoever you find yourself establishing a Dynamic with. This is why it's referred to as a Power Exchange. The submissive freely gives up the responsibility of power to the Dominant, and the Dominant accepts the full responsibility of maintaining that power for the dynamic of the couple.

Take your time as you are very new to this site and if I've read your profile correctly, to the lifestyle in general perhaps. The typical cautionary tale - there are a number of players swimming around who fashion themselves sharks. When you first interact with them, it will be hard to tell. Get to know individuals and ask copious questions of them and others. You'll get a feel for who is who and from that, chat. Read their profiles and their blogs if they have them. Write blogs if you are inclined or comment in the Forum and learn a bit more before you jump into any "relationship". And I hope you don't mind if I advise, it can be a really exciting and heady thing that gets out of hand fast if you don't heed caution and take it slow. There are a few very knowledgeable and nice individuals you shall find here who can be a great source of information. Good luck.

MelanQuinn​(sub female) • Oct 24, 2024

Thank you so much you information is super helpful and your right there are a lot of wolfs on here I ran across a couple I really appreciate it and am open to any and all advice

Sincorrigible​(sub female) • Oct 24, 2024

What LL said. And trust your gut. Reaching out to fellow submissives might be useful to you too. There are women in here who will be able to share from their experiences what to look out for. We tend to be a very helpful and supportive lot.

Have fun! 💜

lambsone • Oct 24, 2024

@MelonQuinn

If you are a premium member you can talk with anyone who hasn't blocked you. If you are a standard non-paying member you won't be able to privately talk to premium members unless they contact you first. This may be why you can't talk to some of those that you wanted to contact.

MelanQuinn​(sub female) • Oct 24, 2024

@lambsone thank you so much for the information I’m goin to try to get the permium hopefully it will help me meet people

lambsone • Oct 24, 2024

@MelanQuinn

That's the reason I got it. I didn't want to miss potential contacts. And it's not all that expensive. It's been worth it for me.

MelanQuinn​(sub female) • Oct 24, 2024

Awesome to hear it’s worth it I goin to get it

I'mME • Nov 2, 2024

Hey MelanQuinn,

Don't quote me, I believe the issue with only being able to message certain folks has to do with whether one is basic member or not. I'm sorry I can't tell you, lol, if it's them or you that have to upgraded. I probably should have checked before I commented to you.
Maybe someone else will know or you might check the help section. If you tap the drop down list in top right corner, the 3 horizontal lines, help is on the left hand side all the way down.