Dominant women on the rise?

Dominant women on the rise?

Dom Pinnacle​(dom male) • Feb 17, 2025

Is it just me or are women becoming more dominant than ever before? I know many people won't see it at all but as a dominant, it's in yo face on the regular. When I meet subs now, they are usually only bedroom subs. That's nice but I'm looking for a 24/7 dynamic. So...is it just my perception or am I seeing something real here?

TopekaDom​(dom male) • Feb 17, 2025

Well without any data to back me up, I would say that there really no more Dommes out there than there has been in the past.

What there is are more women who are willing to identify as Domme. They have always been there, but now are more vocal about it, which is a good thing.

What I think you are seeing are more bottoms, who say silly things like "Bedroom only slave/sub".

But that is whole other thread.

NarahPrimal​(sub female) • Feb 17, 2025

I personally find that the majority of Dominants I have come across are insta Doms or bed room only or simply kinksters. I think comming across anyone who truly values the lifestlye and understands it is a rare thing these days.

SoftSoul​(masochist female) • Feb 28, 2025

Not that they are dominant but have mindset of one of only a Goddess its their true essence they need it to keep their essence but they will protect their heart and guard their life before anything. They only seek someone with the growth of a King willing to share a life with will earn their submission out of love and trust over time. They need someone to hold space for them, one who has worked on their growth of responsibility out of love. It takes two with this bond of love and trust to build a castle dynamic. Yin and yang, dark and light, one can do it alone, you need two to become one.

Even in 24/7 time and place people have feelings they need to live their life as well and have a life behind it. 24/7 you have to understand they are human. I have been 24/7 you also need to know that slave/submissive need feelings and mind you take away these means no love and you need to have a soul to love a slave/sub. Mentally they need feelings you need to care and protect your sub allow them to be them self cause if you break trust women are strong will walk away so don't break trust and grow to be a good man in Dominance a women can do things alone but they need someone who will respect them they will respect you as well.
That's why a man has to have growth Master himself to love himself to love another get out of the gutter become a Man that be good for a Family and protect his family and women do anything to save the relationship.

You have to allow her to get the feelings out that she needs to. Men need to work on growing Master them self cause women are a handful. But you have to be a bit afraid of what comes with dealing with Women. If you can't deal with a woman comes with then marry a man. Educate yourself work on it why being a Man as well cause it help now and then so. Men deal with things but they need love to why shared the links. Shit happens but gotta make it better become better. Be the Better Man that you become for yourself.
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The pulse and the brain can fall in love. But love alone is not enough.

Connection, intimacy, safety, and trust do.

And those require a lot more than just love. Respect each other and value each other so that both work to appreciate each other, and serve each other mutually. Can take accountability when you mess up. We can repair the conflict together.

Listening to feelings when they are hurt and working together does not have an issue.

Being Vulnerable A safe place to be vulnerable and honest about their need to feel valued.

Because love is not going to be enough.

How you love each other is what is going to make the difference.

Saying I do doesn't mean you can it just means you want to.

And unfortunately, relationship success has nothing to do with your intention.

It has everything to do with humility and putting aside your ego.

Becoming a team together where each of you cares about how the other feels, loved, valued and prioritized.


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“Long ago before the patriarchal period, in many places on earth, the Goddess was worshipped. Woman in the train of history has been orphaned by the death of this Great Mother, has suffered loss of connection to her own beingness, lack of sense of legitimacy and belonging in the universe or in her own individual life. Woman can draw comfort from an image of the Great Mother reaching out to her to fulfill and to bring to manifest form in her own individual life that of the Archetypal Eternal Feminine. Woman, with the help of the Great Mother, can leave the collective way to find her own individual way, for somewhere deep inside she knows she must leave to become herself…

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Women he/she/they have always had bit of a tendency to be dominant because a submissive is naturally dominant in some ways does not mean all have Dominant bones but will have a Dominant mindset & structure to speak up and have feelings to be heard will show you out of love of sassiness their love language they only ask for protection, safety and calmness feel respected and wanted.

Even in full dominance of a Dom, they are submissive, they even have a bit of submission in them - they need to be able to lean on their partner and both need to lean on each other. There are going to be times when even the Dom needs the Submissive to help out of care and protection, well were both Dom and submissive need to protect their own team work and relationship anything that comes in the way of the bond to fight for each other not always 50/50 you just need to keep doing it like the first day you met it does not matter you never give up on this bond.

Submissive has a motherly ways being a Goddess in the real world they create life with nurturing But it takes a Leading Hand King that has created space & willing to respect them show them the way take the hand protect them and provide out of love with growth within bond. Both the Sub and Dominant really submit to each other both hold the foundations of their own Dynamic one can not do it alone it takes two two humans to become a team effect to agree on things go through the fear and good and bad ride or die to evolve and grow together.

SoftSoul​(masochist female) • Feb 28, 2025

One thing is as women we give back out of love for the gift you gave them. Is her being strong also her submission is love. That is the only rise what women gives a Man.


I know men deal with a lot of stuff but understand deep inside women are sensitive and loving but are strong because we never want you go through the things we had to and seen everyone has a past but women become strong because they have been through a lot of crap the madness of family or family controlling they need to be on their own for a while to find and grow. I left my family they were controlling I had to become a woman for myself because when you have enough of people trying to control you not allow you to be yourself that is not right people need to be free to be themselves to be able to evolve. She will fight for you til the end of time but she wants someone to do for her as well hold the ground with her.

Women had to become men and women in these times they didn't like to but they only wanted to be a women. They liked the old ways but they will protect their kingdom and their men. But women are fighting this thing called life just as men do just let the fight go and get along understand their no hate its society that stops it start living your own life together for your own one union of this love.


She will never let you starve, she will make food out of love.
She will be there for you in the tough times to support you and help you conquer those things.
Even on your sad days she will make you laugh and do silly things together.
She will save up and help budget things so you both get things.
A good woman will work on herself to master it as well so she will be a good woman just as a man will with her. Even if it's a start to work on together.

My first ex when I was 22 he was out of work in the lowest times I had to rise things up to have faith that when his boss called I told you should take that call offer a different job help you and I so your not suffering I am here to support you through this you know you are strong leading hand. A woman will go out of her way for your happiness but know she is your treasure so treasure her well.
But not all women may not have role models to show and guide them why they lean on looking for a Dominant good hand to show them help them grow in return to help you. A woman will do anything for the man she loves.

Good women don't care what car you drive or how much you make, they really only want you one to share life with.

SoftSoul​(masochist female) • Feb 28, 2025

But it really comes down to what women do to fight for their family's present and future.
Women shouldn't have to sell their bodies, have to do these silly things, they really need to use their mind and how they carry it and value it. But it takes a man to take her and protect her from the things of this world. Women would love to stay home and be the lady of the house but they are not looking to be someone's mother they want to be a team mate, love mate, forever internal flame. They would love to have a career and do it all also but many have talents really why you must work on the foundation of the relationship first with one. But a man needs to be a good leader outside of the party to become a Man cause to settle with a women they want the same in aliment. Women don't like dealing with jerks, so we don't like to fight. It's one thing that eases the ego and cures and cures the anger cause the calm healed ego with peace we will walk with you. We are tired of how the country is and the politicians. We just want to live a quiet life, live a good life with the desires, with the dynamic. Take pride in yourself with love she will do the same she fights as you fight for love but never let her do things alone.



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SoftSoul​(masochist female) • Mar 10, 2025

Maybe not everyone knows about it, but there is also a thing called >: Dominant Men Who Like Submissive Women With Dominant Personalities! So yes women can be submissive but are independent in the outside world or even at home helping with support even why the Dom man is still the Main Dom. They can work or not have to, they just have to have a good head on their shoulders to support themselves. But Dom Man is the main thrush hold of providing can help the sub if they even have a mental mind set to be dominant inside they just want to do more as women can do things also someone willing to help them with goals and dreams to let them grow. Just being submissive to being an ATM or having to deal with boys not willing to grow or one still acting like they still live with their parents and women having to have a job and take care of everything, this is what ruins it. A Dom’s man should secure their life get together not even care what she does he only needs to focus on making a life for himself making room for a lady to walk into life with. You cannot put with the responsibility of a woman then marry a man. It's not her job to chase you, and you should be happy to keep her happy to keep her from ever letting her go.

Miki​(masochist female) • Mar 10, 2025

Hey, Dom Pinnacle!! (Psst, I still can't find you on your brand of wine on any shelves, even in the backwater 'burbs... I still can only find that Dom Perignon crap) But you knew that!

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So, onto the original thought: Maybe, maybe not (more dominant women than before) ...but personally I have seen more assertive women for sure, but that's not something that happened overnight. It's been a trend for a while now.

In my case I'm more assertive than maybe five or ten years ago-- definitely independent to the point of being very content living by myself (roomie don't count, she's more gone than here because of her work, and even when we're around at the same time we do our own thing without interfering or even opining on the doings of the other) -- not getting into relationships and so-forth-- yet I most certainly am no dominant in the BDSM sense.

SoftSoul​(masochist female) • Mar 10, 2025

No titles, just no sub women is really A domme just they like to have a say but everyone's life is different' . Like many Doms, they don't want a brainless Sub they want one with a mind. The mind is only a teacher, how we all share are story's speak are mind.
But in the dominant world, it needs Love to Open Love.

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Men and women have to stop being at war with each other and start working with each other and let go of the wrong and try to make it right.

Just because it's BDSM doesn't mean you get to be an asshole everywhere you go, and doing so in public only makes one look like a pussy do better.

SO the way you treat her you also doing to yourself and your self so really gotta heal the whatever is bothering you.
Until you face the man in the mirror and look at the patterns of things in life you may not be abusive but it might be something that happens to you or your words you gotta surround it with love and gratitude. Men don't come with a book ya they need support but learn to love yourself & love another & this world is enough. But a woman is made from your rib, she only looks for you for guidance and protection and love but you will need her in a way of support so don't treat her wrong treat it better as you are partner be same reflection of respect. It's not your fault but some things just need to be healed in the void, the dark and the light.
You are a man its hard but do not live with pain take the pain and have a healthy womb.


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Whorgazmo​(sub female) • Mar 11, 2025

Most of the single subs are forced to adopt a masculine role so we're are out there living our lives having to present in a certain way that probably comes off as dominant. Honestly, I see more vanilla women open to the possibility of a male led relationship as compared to when I was growing up.