Is there anyone that is not confused?

House Talion​(dom male) • Jan 19, 2025

Lifestyle statistics

90% ubber-doms- ppl that have no experience, but act like they rule the world and will most likely do whatever they can to get what they want from you.

8% ppl of genuine interest, no irl xp, most likely to have a profile lifespan of a few hours and most likely to ghost based on pure uncomfortability.

1.5% scmmers and bots.

0.23% experienced ppl that have real Lifestyle xp, but actnpike ubber-doms.

0.02% e perceived ppl that have real Lifestyle xp and actually care.

lambsone • Jan 19, 2025

@House Talion

Have you noticed these statistics to be better way back than they are now? I got into this in the fall of 1999 and it just seems that it was better long ago. But now it seems pretty hopeless in finding someone who cares.

Cello Trance​{for You} • Jan 20, 2025

Maybe I’m talking to the wrong people or maybe I’m lucky enough just to get that 0.02% but I have found so many genuine, wonderful ,lovely people on this website. People of substance. People that work long hard hours. Genuine good hearted hard-working people that also happen to have kinks. I meet people with real life problems, pains, illnesses, things that have happened in their past that have haunted them. I meet them in the chat room. I meet them in their blogs. I meet them in a forum post… I message them and get to know them . people on both sides of the slash… Male, female… I don’t think it’s quite as dire as that low percentage. That’s my take on it anyway.

Steellover​(sub male) • Jan 20, 2025

As a male sub I could give similarly bleak numbers on femdommes, it's a bit different dymanic though and it depends on where and how you look at it. As far as "Where"- Over the broader internet beyond this site, It seems like it would break down to about 80% bots, "Financial dommes," and scammers, and 15% paid ("Tribute") professionals, and maybe 5 percent looking for a genuine connection. And of that 5 percent, many are not seeking the same thing you are- they may (for example) want more of an indentured servant type arrangement rather than a relationship based on kink.

Part of the reason for this is, I suspect, a lot of "newbie" male submissives easily fall into the sub-frenzy head-space, wanting to experience the dynamic first hand but don't really have any real opportunities to do so. So, "a horny male is easily led by his balls"- or his wallet, and sadly this makes them an all-too-easy mark. Not to be negative, but I know exactly from experience what the newly awoken sub-male subspace frenzy is like.

Now granted that is just what I've seen in the broader internet, not specifically this site which does a better job vetting the bots, scammers and paid professionals. And keep in mind, I joined this site not to "hook up" so much as to just share ideas and experiences.

sub cub​(sub male)​{MikaAngelO} • Feb 16, 2025

This post and thread have been super enlightening to me as i am a newbie to the life style. It also makes me feel more anxious in how i present myself here. e.g. Is my profile stupid? Do i sound over zealous, needy or silly when i approach people here? I get the impression that SayYesMa'am will answer those questions with brutal honesty. lol. And I look forward to it. Fingers crossed. I want to be serious about the life.

The profiles of Dommes that i have read here at Cage that i have respected the most and have intrigued me the most say very little about sex. And if they do mention it , it is at the end. Therefore i understand that they seem like the REAL thing. Their expectations have been clear. Service, submission, loyalty, respect, etc. i adore the idea of a FLR because it feels natural for me, safe for me, and pleasing my Domme is all the satifaction i should need. That seems natural. Whether it is dutifully preparing and serving she and her friends a meal or whether it is kinky and sexual, i won't have to use my imagination to please her. She will tell me exactly what she wants and it is up to me to fulfill her wishes. Her wishes are the point not mine. And her pleasure, be it mundane or sexual, will be just as important while i work at my day job, as it is in the kitchen or in the bedroom. If it is real, it is all or nothing.

Am i close on this?

SayYesMaam​(dom female) • Feb 17, 2025

I did not read most of it because I don't feel like it, but you seem to be submissive, which is what I like.

markusrg​(switch male) • Feb 23, 2025

im truly a switch, nor confussed but aroused by both sides, anyway what i found with experince is that dosnt work to switch roles with the same person, so in the speecific case youre mentioning think theres ppl that adapt to the role depending on hwo they dealing with

Little Vixie​(sub female)​{Mgh30} • Feb 24, 2025

I feel this in the opposite sense. I'm a sub through and through. I get switches that say that they are dominant or can be while with me, but then request to be pegged and similar things. I've had to make it a hard limit to not fuck switches because too many were trying to be topped without calling it that

SkyeWriter​(dom female) • Mar 22, 2025

I think there are a few things at play here.

First, as someone pointed out, there are men who pretend to want to submit just so they can get off. Certainly these men are not submissives.

Next, there are men who pretend to be submissive because they subscribe to the TOTALLY RIDICULOUS and INSULTING idea that the only reason a woman would identify as Dominant is because she hasn't met the man who can make her want to submit--and of course, THEY are that man. These men are not only impostors, but they are dangerous.

The third group, I believe, are men who know in their hearts they are submissive and have fears about letting anyone else know that. They may have shared it with a partner and been rebuffed; they may have the fear because of the way they hear their buddies talk about "betas" and they feel ashamed of their desires; they may feel that there are no women who would find them acceptable.

This group, then, identifies themselves as switches, or even as maledoms, so that they don't get abused by other site users. It's not until they talk to a woman who identifies as Dominant here and begin to feel comfortable with her that they may be willing to reveal that they are actually submissive.

It's a "wait and see" thing for both sides and honestly, I can't blame anyone for withholding information until they have had some chance to vet someone in some way. There are men pretending to be women at all of these types of sites, so it pays to be careful.