JaredMayer(dom male)
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3 days ago •
Mar 28, 2025
Honestly, I accept that ghosting and blocking as just the safest way to end conversations with people online. I've been told by many people (mostly women) that trying to politely disengage often triggers defensiveness and vitriol. Hell I even saw it once. Why put up with that? The message is clear regardless.
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itsmella(sub female)
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3 days ago •
Mar 28, 2025
Re: What's worst? Jazlyn wrote: Ghosted and here's why. If they blocked me the reason is clear, you just don't want to talk to me anymore. If they are deleted from a site or deleted themselves, they either got banned or just don't want an account anymore (I have done this myself). With ghosting you don't know what happened to the person, if they will ever speak again, what happened or anything. There are no definite clues. You are just left to wonder, and people assume the worst, it's our nature. i cant explain myself better |
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Little Vixie(sub female){Mgh30}
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3 days ago •
Mar 29, 2025
I'll play devils advocate and say I've ghosted and block without giving someone a reason.
Here's why: They were making me extremely uncomfortable. Not listening to me, being overly sexual and treating me like an object. Disrespected my boundaries. I will always give a warning. If you continue at that point I feel like I am clear to either ghost block. At that point, if you don't wish to listen to me then why should we continue to talk. At the end of the day, you aren't entitled to anyone's time. Now this is different if you have been together or known each other for a very long time. Seems like the respectable thing to do is give a reason. But if I am just starting to talk to you, then I don't owe an explanation. If it's not worth it then I'm gone. Seems shitty, but at the end of the day there is plenty of fish in the sea. One block, just wasn't meant to be. Several blocks or ghosting over time, maybe it might be a good idea to see what the common theme is. |
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Steellover(sub male)
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3 days ago •
Mar 29, 2025
Well, you do at least give a warning, and for that reason I respect, and agree with, everything you are saying. You let them know, and if they don't get it then, it's on them.
And yes, as mentioned there is a difference between being ghosted online by someone you have never met face to face, and being ghosted by someone you know, and have been hanging out with, in real life- and there was no warning, and you have no idea why. |
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SavannahLyn(sub female){~Umbee~}
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2 days ago •
Mar 29, 2025
Why i ghost. Little Vixie wrote: I'll play devils advocate and say I've ghosted and block without giving someone a reason. Here's why: They were making me extremely uncomfortable. Not listening to me, being overly sexual and treating me like an object. Disrespected my boundaries. I will always give a warning. If you continue at that point I feel like I am clear to either ghost block. At that point, if you don't wish to listen to me then why should we continue to talk. At the end of the day, you aren't entitled to anyone's time. Now this is different if you have been together or known each other for a very long time. Seems like the respectable thing to do is give a reason. But if I am just starting to talk to you, then I don't owe an explanation. If it's not worth it then I'm gone. Seems shitty, but at the end of the day there is plenty of fish in the sea. One block, just wasn't meant to be. Several blocks or ghosting over time, maybe it might be a good idea to see what the common theme is. Steellover wrote: Well, you do at least give a warning, and for that reason I respect, and agree with, everything you are saying. You let them know, and if they don't get it then, it's on them. Here is the thing Steel, you have no idea how many times that our warnings (no matter how direct) are missed, dismissed, and/or are outright ignored. (all uses of the pronoun you in the following is rhetorical lol) i have blocked, i have ghosted, i have zero shame in it. If you can't understand the way i express myself, then we are not compatible. Being incompatible is not an attack on your character, it's a foundational mismatch. If you cannot take the rebuff and make me feel unsettled, then blocked/ghosted. i do what i need to to protect my peace. (point of view when i was still looking) ~Savage~ |
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Bunnie
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2 days ago •
Mar 29, 2025
Being as fickle as I am with messaging and staying focused, nowadays I lead with a “disclaimer” if someone wants to message back and forth with me.
I let them know that there’ll be times I don’t respond, or disappear mid-conversation (because… sparkly things), and I let them know it’s not because of them in any way. I also let them know that if at any time I don’t want to speak to them anymore, I’ll simply tell them. This (hopefully) relieves both of us of some of the pressures of maintaining online contact. If I expect communication and grace, I too have to be willing to communicate and give grace. In regards to being ghosted/blocked, if it’s someone I’m not particularly connected with, I simply respect and accept their decision and move on. Obviously they have their reasons and their own methods of disconnecting. If it’s someone I have a connection with, I do worry if something has happened to them- the not knowing if they’re ok can suck. |
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Diminished Dreams(dom male)
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2 days ago •
Mar 29, 2025
Being ghosted sucks, especially when you feel there's a connection happening. But I absolutely understand it considering the horror stories I've heard from female friends who talk to men who have obviously never been told "No" once in their lives. As much as I explain to the ones I talk to that I would never blow up, just please let me know when the connection isn't there anymore, it still happens and I just have to let it go. The fuck else can I do? I obviously made her uncomfortable, do I wish I had the chance to rectify? Sure but if they just don't want to give that chance then it just wasn't meant to happen.
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