What's worst?

JaredMayer​(dom male) • Mar 28, 2025

Honestly, I accept that ghosting and blocking as just the safest way to end conversations with people online. I've been told by many people (mostly women) that trying to politely disengage often triggers defensiveness and vitriol. Hell I even saw it once. Why put up with that? The message is clear regardless.

Re: What's worst?

itsmella​(sub female) • Mar 28, 2025

i cant explain myself better

Little Vixie​(sub female)​{Mgh30} • Mar 29, 2025

I'll play devils advocate and say I've ghosted and block without giving someone a reason.

Here's why:
They were making me extremely uncomfortable. Not listening to me, being overly sexual and treating me like an object. Disrespected my boundaries. I will always give a warning. If you continue at that point I feel like I am clear to either ghost block. At that point, if you don't wish to listen to me then why should we continue to talk.

At the end of the day, you aren't entitled to anyone's time. Now this is different if you have been together or known each other for a very long time. Seems like the respectable thing to do is give a reason. But if I am just starting to talk to you, then I don't owe an explanation. If it's not worth it then I'm gone. Seems shitty, but at the end of the day there is plenty of fish in the sea. One block, just wasn't meant to be. Several blocks or ghosting over time, maybe it might be a good idea to see what the common theme is.

Steellover​(sub male) • Mar 29, 2025

Well, you do at least give a warning, and for that reason I respect, and agree with, everything you are saying. You let them know, and if they don't get it then, it's on them.

And yes, as mentioned there is a difference between being ghosted online by someone you have never met face to face, and being ghosted by someone you know, and have been hanging out with, in real life- and there was no warning, and you have no idea why.

Why i ghost.

SavannahLyn​(sub female)​{~Umbee~} • Mar 29, 2025

Here is the thing Steel, you have no idea how many times that our warnings (no matter how direct) are missed, dismissed, and/or are outright ignored.
(all uses of the pronoun you in the following is rhetorical lol)
i have blocked, i have ghosted, i have zero shame in it. If you can't understand the way i express myself, then we are not compatible. Being incompatible is not an attack on your character, it's a foundational mismatch. If you cannot take the rebuff and make me feel unsettled, then blocked/ghosted. i do what i need to to protect my peace. (point of view when i was still looking)

~Savage~

Bunnie • Mar 29, 2025

Being as fickle as I am with messaging and staying focused, nowadays I lead with a “disclaimer” if someone wants to message back and forth with me.
I let them know that there’ll be times I don’t respond, or disappear mid-conversation (because… sparkly things), and I let them know it’s not because of them in any way. I also let them know that if at any time I don’t want to speak to them anymore, I’ll simply tell them. This (hopefully) relieves both of us of some of the pressures of maintaining online contact.
If I expect communication and grace, I too have to be willing to communicate and give grace.

In regards to being ghosted/blocked, if it’s someone I’m not particularly connected with, I simply respect and accept their decision and move on. Obviously they have their reasons and their own methods of disconnecting.
If it’s someone I have a connection with, I do worry if something has happened to them- the not knowing if they’re ok can suck.

Diminished Dreams​(dom male) • Mar 29, 2025

Being ghosted sucks, especially when you feel there's a connection happening. But I absolutely understand it considering the horror stories I've heard from female friends who talk to men who have obviously never been told "No" once in their lives. As much as I explain to the ones I talk to that I would never blow up, just please let me know when the connection isn't there anymore, it still happens and I just have to let it go. The fuck else can I do? I obviously made her uncomfortable, do I wish I had the chance to rectify? Sure but if they just don't want to give that chance then it just wasn't meant to happen.

SoftSoul​(masochist female) • Apr 2, 2025

You block them, they just keep coming back. They want you back , love bomb , have addiction over you of their fantasies.


They try to come crawling back wanting your love and service. They may love you but only want love from you but they won't give it back only sometimes. They play nice and sweet good conversation but when you do not laugh at every joke , They get mad over the weather you live in, your state, they try to little you about things that make you tear up. But they call them self a leading hand but can't take the responsibility of the role to protect & but make excuses they can't handle it, can't find empathy to be emotionally safety. Then they hung up.
But to come back and call say this is Daddy and then call me mommy and think I am going to comfort them after they did this was not very nice. I said after what you did to me disrespected boundoies and respect I am not playing this game anymore. They admitted they controlled to be a mommy since the beginning.

Behavior can turn from good to bad and they want to see how far they can get to you to please them. They claim they a daddy or someone successful but want you to go do demands nothing of genuine connection yes they will pose and sweeten up to look genuine in connection to keep you around to keep you. But they will come around when they want you. They never ask you about your day how your doing they only want you to give them attention. They get mad if it's not what they want to hear. They will not support your goals or dreams, only the goals that you can give them. They said we were done because he did not want to fix the relationship or take responsibility for being a leading hand but comes back wanting to be a sub well if does not pour the same I don't need to do do nothing for them cut the feeding. They wanted to breast feed seem to want keep online wanted to get me a breast pump only wanted to go real if I had milk coming out but they still treat people like dirt only be nice to you if you kiss their butt. They have fetish of a mommy and mommy with a strap on and do take care of them financially. They will eat you out of house and home and use your funds for their boy toy stuff. You won't fit in to their desires cause fantasy in reality can not be the same. You have to treat people like real people humans not a fantasy.

Pressure you in to being mommy they have mommy issues not willing to grow they still wanna go out and party and drink and not take responsibility's on being a man. They say, "Good, I never wanted to marry a woman or have kids. I hurt a woman do things put them in jail red flag call right there. They blame their exes over split milk like the ex put flip flops in the closet and clean up things they did like how they did it. Thing is a sub may do things to get the attention they want love from their dom cause your not doing anything to show them or not listening to their something wrong there.
It's Dom's job to show and teach the sub not tell get mad over little things they should have the strength to be a man not a little boy. They getting mad want to hurt a sub but throw them in the street this not love this a dangerous person. Some pose as a Leading Hand straight male but they are attracted to men but like women but abuse women but don't have any respect for anyone. Be careful with your heart. See how someone treats you before you meet them if they change at different times or try to control it's not good.
Someone can be good to be true be flashy but try to call themselves an alpha and dom, but don't fall for it.
They show pics that older look nothing like what they say they try to make as they are celebrities.
Their are some that pose as a Dom to feminine motherly Subs to get them to be a Mommy Dom they want an independent woman to take care of them all their needs and home and to to hold them and bathe them pay for stuff want your milk. But not even a Domme or sub will out up with it you can't force anyone to be what you want. You have to be willing to change for them self.
Be careful some in Florida other lower states they are getting desperate I don't know what it is but it seems like they can't find someone more the guy's doing it. Some just like to swing want sub to do only fans and want to invest the funds but don't care about you seem some get hurt. Don't fall for a griphand that acts like a bad Jack ass joker. They are preying on midwest ones and upper states. But their some pose any were just be selective keep your boundaries and respect. They serve crap, they better be ready for some shit.
Perma block them put a note you can't fix who don't wanna change don't ever go back. Old ones try to come in when your life is good, don't answer it.
Any one with a addiction should get help. They may blame you say your the problem they are their own enemy their own problem.
They define to like curvy attractive ones with boobs. They say if you were not attractive or smart they would be talking to you just way too little you but your smarter than that just leave them. They will say your pretty so on but once they get what they want they will stop. They will try to win and rush love and wanna win you over or buy love. But once they have you, they will put you under them. They say they are sadists but they want you to be the sadist. Run Run Run.........

You deserve better, someone that respects you does not break that promise.


Some love you.

Some love to be around you.

Some love what you can do for them.

Understand the difference.




They asked them,

" How do you get through tough moments?

They answered,

Do not trust the way you see yourself when your mind is turbulent, remember that even pain is temporary. Honor your boundaries, Treat yourself gently, let go of perfection and feel your emotions without letting them control you.




You have enough experience to face the storm and evolve from it.

( Resilience)




It's not about the reputation but pose in front of others but treat those well in public but at night or behind closed doors differently in sad way in other places it's the character and behavior that comes out dark. Read the signs it shows.
Invest in educating yourself about what love bomb is , Energy vampires , mommy issues , narcissist. Don't put your heart into something that does not feel right just because they want it from you. What limits are for and never let it change.

MasterDarcy​(dom male) • Apr 4, 2025

It's purely hypothetical for me as neither of the options have ever happened to me.

If I had to choose one I'd probably choose discovering that the person I've been chatting with has vanished. Time is too precious to waste.

I can't recall any of three happening to me. Mainly because I rarely, if ever, initiate contact. Because of that, I've never been ghosted. And when I have been contacted, the other person has never ended the dialogue.

If someone initiates contact with me they have to reach a few criteria: They have to match me in terms of intelligence, character and humour. They must have a thick skin and not be easily offended. My wit is as sharp as a blade, and like a blade, my wit can slice.

Once the conversation begins It doesn't take long for me to gauge someone's personality.

In my "interview process" I have a "three strikes and you're out," policy. For instance, someone messaged me a few days ago. 1. She didn't get my humour. 2. My main kink is a hard limit for her. 3. She's married with 3 children.

Suffice to say, I told her that we weren't compatible. As i said, time is a precious commodity. There's no point beating around the bush.

I would never ghost someone or simply vanish on them with giving a reason. I'm not judging anyone who does. Everyone's personal preference should be respected.

Zoneinlingo​(neither female) • Apr 4, 2025

I agree with all of your alls comments on this subject. Everyone has their own feels about it. As it should be, we are all individuals with different views, wants, and needs. If everyone agreed to everything, it would be quite boring in my opinion and we wouldn't be having this discussion.

But for me what's the "worst" is annoying someone, honestly. I'm actually trying to make friends on here not aggravate people. But I'm a overthinker and once I chum up with someone I can be a goofy nut. I will also be very honest even if it hurts. I will speak my mind. I may not be everyone's cup of coffee or tea and that's fine. So do me a favor if you don't want to continue conversing with me simply stop replying. I promise I will get the hint and stop replying back. Which a few have already experienced. Sorry if you thought I ghosted you. I don't feel this is ghosting on my part because I'm not being engaged in conversation anymore and figure the conversation we had is over. And because I suck at initiating anything except a good morning or good night.

Would getting ghosted hurt my feelings? Yes, if we chatting for awhile and connected on some level. I haven't been hurt by being ghosted yet. I say yet because it could happen to me. I hope not. It's a chance you take chatting online.

I perfer to not ghost anyone. I try to keep in touch with my friends. My friends are the ones that keep replying back 😏. If I'm going to be offline for awhile I will let my friends know because it's just out of courtesy. They might actually care a little bit about me or something, maybe it's a possibility. Who knows it could happen.
Well just in case I wouldn't want them to worry.

I have blocked a person, but I'm very certain I had legit reasons to and I don't feel bad about it.