Questions for seasoned bdsm users

I’ve recently come into the bdsm/sub scene and have been struggling to find connections. In all honesty, I don’t even know if this is where I should be posting this. I’m just wondering if people have any recommendations besides this site for looking for other connections or just how to start entering the scene more. Thank you all in advance ^^

Depends a little what you mean by connections, but generally speaking if you go looking on Fetlife for in-person munches, those are really easy to make friends at (having been to a couple myself). You just sit down next to someone and ask them what their story is .
I've made a couple friends by just dming others too, though you usually have to have some sort of shared interest or reason for doing so.
Dating, mm, that's honestly a different ballgame, if you're active and accessible then you'll get attention. I occasionally get a message or two on here if I make some posts. In-person I've typically found most people to be either poly or near-to poly, but you could try your luck (or if that's your thing then it's even better).

Looked at your profile and my Dom & I went to our first event a decade or two before you were born. We have met a lot of wonderful people through the years at different types of events. Of course, like any group there are always a few jerks, but they weed themselves out eventually.

When you say "connections", that's a broad term with different meanings. Are you looking for a long term relationship or someone to hang out and have scenes with? In my opinion, DM is not usually a good way to meet people unless they are in your area, you feel comfortable with them, maybe have a common interest, and they are willing to meet you in a safe public place.

I always caution people not to be in a hurry to find someone. If you just relax and be yourself, you may be surprised how easy it is to find someone compatible with you. Ours is a Femdom marriage and that has worked well for us, but we have met many people who have enjoyed other types of lifestyles. Whatever lifestyle you choose, stay true to yourself and what you would enjoy.

Meaningful connections are formed when someone is willing to take the time to truly understand you, fostering deep conversations and a bond that can grow over time. Don't give up hope, but be patient and keep an open mind. Initially, focus on building friendships and reserve your heart for someone special. Establishing boundaries is crucial, but don't wait for others to dictate your happiness - stay busy and be your authentic self. As you know what you want, you're already on the right path. Sharing a bit about yourself and as two more pics does have to show much but smile even. can help others connect with you. The key is to be genuine and selective about the connections you make. Take your time, and don't rush the process; it can take weeks for a bond to form. My own journey taught me that distance is not a barrier if someone is truly interested. Prioritize loving yourself and being a good partner to yourself. Sometimes, the best things in life happen unexpectedly, so stay open and focused on personal growth. Be careful with your heart and ensure that others respect and earn it. I've learned that staying true to oneself and being open to feedback is vital. While connections can be made, it's essential to prioritize building genuine friendships. Remember, a meaningful connection is about more than just words; it's about showing up and being invested in one another. Focus on finding someone who respects and values you for who you are.

Cage is a great spot, just hold tight for now. Above your photo will appear 'seeking', fill in that box with enthusiasm and explore the tab on top that says 'seeking' to find like-minded individuals who resonate with your profile or make a meaningful gesture. , it's make friends, and sometimes a friendship can turn into more. Cage has a lot more education, it's a bit cleaner, and people will hit you up. Small talk won't help, such as saying you're pretty or saying 'submit now', or them saying 'I wanna own you' or 'I am a dom'. The best ones won't say they're a dom, they will want to get to know you without bringing up sex or saying stuff about your body. Grown-ups willing to grow with you won't beat around the bush.