Help for a newish Dom

My partner and I enjoy BDSM but we want to incorporate what is essentially play at the moment into a lifestyle and are struggling with how to make this work. I am mistress and am looking for any advice on how I can keep j under my control 24/7. Not into making him do chores etc

What are you doing now to incorporate into a lifestyle. Orgasm control and chastity are pretty easy to incorporate into everyday life.

I recommend doing some reading first.

You might try the Dominance Playbook by Anton Fulmen: https://www.amazon.com/Dominance-Playbook-Power-Scenes-Relationships/dp/0937609900/.

I also personally recommend Conquer Me: https://www.amazon.com/Conquer-Girl-girl-fulfilling-submissive/dp/189015976X/. This is from a submissive female perspective, but it really speaks to all subs, and I as a Dominant found it helpful to read, too.

If reading isn't so much your thing, there are a lot of active groups on FetLife like Novices and Newbies https://fetlife.com/groups/347, and groups for new Mistresses & subs.

You can also look for munches or organizations in your area. Experienced kinksters are often very happy to share their experiences with those new to a D/s relationship.

Good luck, and I hope you find what you need to help!