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ThisIsTheWay​(dom male) • Aug 12, 2021

How many messages do you ladies get? on average a day. Does having a picture impact the amount?

How many do you think are from bots or fakes?

What is one thing you want us men to know about either response times, messages or anything else related.

ButterfliesAndCuffs​(sub female) • Aug 12, 2021

I get about 10 a day. I’m assuming it would be less without a pic.
I haven’t had any bot or scammy messages.
As far as response times, I try to respond to everyone but I’m human. Plus like everyone else I have stuff I need to take care of in real life. Also just because I messaged you back doesn’t mean I want you for my Dom. I like chatting with like minded people. I’m also tired of being asked to go on kik. How is that not more annoying than this site? I can understand if you want to send a pic that way but just keep the conversation here.
Stop moving so fast. Get to know someone you’re interested in. Don’t try to force the D/s dynamic.

MissBonnie​(dom female){oz} • Aug 12, 2021

First you'd need to define what is a "bot or fake" to you, in order to get the responses you want.
these things are many different things, to many different people. Your fake, might be another answers to their personal desires.
I'm fairly sure there is NO "bots" on the cage and its not even built into their software. Also think about how this reads to others just joining The Cage! You just implied they stack the profiles to appear better value...when nothing could be further from the truth. Each and every profile is..or was (at the time) owned by a REAL person!
what is a fake to you? just after sensation? not seeking 24/7? just after service and not sex? find sex important as part of play? hookups? long term? looking for poly? online? (note I'm not saying any of these are "fake" just supplying egs) Fake can mean so much or so little? you'd first need to quantify what "fake" is...
Additionally we all look for different things in our inbox and or partners, and of differing depths and levels...are we to assume you ask the above of "single and looking"? but looking for what?

Also you might want to make your language a little more inclusive, the site isn't "just" MaleDom, it is a mixed BDSM site of many niches and also genders.I'm not trying to be difficult, just trying to get you the answer to what you want. I do think its an interesting topic.

if I read it as I think you intended. MY personal message count depends on the day and time I log in as the user list shows who is logged in. Weekends I tend to get more messages (and do you mean bonds or internal mail) more if its later at night in the US time zone ( I think there might be more US users, as its like that on most sites) Week days less if I log in early my time zone.
As for pictures/photos, yes they do seem to attract more interest and more often than not text on profiles isn't read. ...but saying that Domme are a minority (here) and are in short supply (everywhere) but again I don't think I'm the demographic your after. So I'll leave it to the hetero femsubs to answer your query.
I'm looking forward to the answers.

Bleiz​(sub female) • Aug 12, 2021

When I'm actively on here I get @ 3-5 messages. I respond to all of them. If they are calling me a slut or a whore, I attempt to educate them on bdsm and consent then I block. I give most of my attention to the ones who comment about something I've written in a blog or on my profile.

The cage community is small and those versed in the lifestyle support each other. We spread the word when there's someone abusive in our inbox to try to protect those who are new to the website or just starting their bdsm journey.

It's also important to remember that there's more to us than our kinks. So. Much. More.

cynthiajoy • Aug 12, 2021

i joined on here about a month ago and have only received 5 messages. Three from a women and two from a male.
i suspect that being a lesbian turns off a lot of the folks here.
Still it is fun and education to read stories and hints.

poppyclaire​(sub female) • Aug 12, 2021

There is no standard on the number of messages per day. I'm less active and changed my profile to not looking and people have generally respected that which is nice. When I just joined I got a couple messages every few days maybe?

I wish guys wouldn't try to push me into a dynamic so fast or at all. I'm open to talking and early out was even open to playing but I'm not just randomly submitting to people which seemed to be the expectation.

cherilynn​(sub female) • Aug 12, 2021

I get about 3-5 a day and then some days nothing at all. I do think having a picture helps because otherwise it is just words on a screen with no human element. I seriously doubt I would be contacted at all without a picture.

I have only received one truly shady message wherein the sender called me a slut. I didn't waste my time educating him, just deleted it. Can't say it didn't piss me off for a second or two though..

Things I would want the men contacting me to know is I've got to have a picture to connect. I am neither use to nor good at meeting people this way and I am easily distracted. I need a picture to keep my focus and remind me I am talking to a person.
I would also suggest that folks have patience and remember I am an adult (here's hoping) and have a life outside of the cage and can't be tethered to my phone.

Hope this help 😝

CSI • Aug 12, 2021

Hmmmm. Well when I have a body picture up I would say about 10 a day. Now that I don't, I would say maybe 4 or 5 a week. On days I am more active, 2 or 3 a day.

What I would want people to know: copied and pasted texts rarely get replied to, especially if it says the same thing that's on your profile. And if all you have to say is "hello", "sup", "need a dom", or "are you horny", it is unlikely I will reply. But hey, different strokes for different folks. Might do it for someone.

Bunnie • Aug 12, 2021

I learned very early that those who had pictures of anything resembling themselves or a possibility of, got harassed way more than those who didn’t. I decided to never (beyond a few short-term fun group challenges, back in the days gone) put up any pictures of myself.

Now that we have the option of locking off our messaging systems, it doesn’t matter so much. However, I still don’t bother. For the purpose of my presence here, it doesn’t feel particularly necessary.

Miki​(masochist female) • Aug 12, 2021

When I signed up my inbox was blown up daily. That's not saying I'm all that great, but I was just new. It helps that the ratio of men to women is rather lopsided and when a new woman joins, they all pounce.

By and by the inboxing dwindled a bit, especially once I emphasized "Not Looking!!!!!" in my profile ---but still there were those intrepid doms who thought they could change my mind.

Nowadays not even 1 or 2 a week, and I'm beyond thrilled with that.

I do answer all and enjoy fine, not-necessarily-sexual conversation.

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What do I want guys to know about all this?

I'll talk to anyone but that's it.

What blows is when what happened to me the other day comes along:

A guy messaged me and we started an intelligent conversation --- but as seems inevitable it meandered into "Do you think we can meet up?" -- he even insisted it wasn't for sexual adventures.

After declining several times and informing him, an overall nice guy, that he'd be more likely to win the Powerball jackpot than ever meet me--- he finally vanished.

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What I want all to know is when I decline, I will no longer explain myself.

Please Take "No" for an answer and continue more useful conversation ---or say bye-bye.

It will never be personal. Don't pout and make it seem that way. I simply have neither the time nor the desire be doing meet, beat, and eats with anyone I don't already know IRL.

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***I was unaware of the ability to lock off one's messaging system. It bears further investigation.***