age gaps

age gaps

intenseoldman​(dom male) • Jan 27, 2025

So Bill Belichik is well off. He's 72 and has a 24 year old girlfriend. That's a 48 year age gap. No one views him as a predator taking advantage of a young girl's youth and inexperience. In fact, it's more like, "good for you, old man" They are out in public together all the time and society accepts them. Whether or not they share a genuine connection, or she's using her youth and beauty to take advantage of his age and fortune, or he's using his age and fortune to take advantage of her youth and inexperience, who knows? If they're happy together, who cares?

Do you think the world has changed in how it views age gaps? Are younger generations more accepting of them than older generations are? There are a lot of younger subs who prefer old Doms. Should age gaps in BDSM dynamics be scrutinized? Are they unhealthy? Or is that scrutiny a reflection of someone's frustration and jealousy more than it is concern for anyone taking advantage? I have been with young and old, and the best relationship I've been in, there was a 22 year age gap. So why is the first question my kids ask when they find out I have a love interest "how old is she?" Is there something wrong with getting along better with a younger generation?

TopekaDom​(dom male) • Jan 27, 2025

More than likely no one really care about Bill. Everyone know she is doing it for the money and as long as they are honest with each other, more power to them.


What I think is great is older women getting boy toys is becoming more acceptable. I think that is fantastic!

darlingdiana​(sub female)​{MASTER LA} • Jan 27, 2025

[quote="TopekaDom"]More than likely no one really care about Bill. Everyone know she is doing it for the money and as long as they are honest with each other, more power to them.


What I think is great is older women getting boy toys is becoming more acceptable. I think that is fantastic!

Cougars need their kitties to purr too! i do prefer a bit older (within a decade). The younger ones are far more relentless- its seems as the younger females to males ratio is evening out... great observation!

A Minx • Jan 28, 2025

Sooo... at first glance I was thinking 'ol Bill was that guy with the foot fetish. Why did my mind go to there? ? oh, it was Rex Ryan, lol.

It's been acceptable since the dawn of man to betroth a (young) girl to protect status and even bloodlines. It is common in many cultures today. Glad to see things are changing and are more acceptable for the ladies out there these days!

Anyways, I've been involved on both sides of that age coin. I absolutely loved being with an older guy, like 2x's my age. I loved being with a confident, experienced, well informed (older) guy. I didn't see it as a money or power thing. I was genuinely attracted to him and that is what mattered to me most, the attraction. But, the age difference was a sexy intensifier to me too because I learned so much about life being around him. Although, it may have happened, I really didn't notice if we received any extra attention (older/younger) but that was never my intention going into that relationship. I hooked up with that one because I was attracted to and seriously interested in him. It lasted 3 years of my young life and I would never trade that for the world!

Later in life, I found myself attracted to a younger guy and would have never in a million years expected that to ever happen to me! He felt the same, it was electric in all ways and we lasted +8 years. Again, it was all about the attraction and nothing more. There have been guys here on thecage in their late 30's early 40's reaching out to me which really blows my mind. I don't think I can go there, the age gap is too wide for me but I'm curious why they would be interested in someone my age (and no they aren't rampaging f*ckboys). I've not gotten too far into getting to know any of them and haven't asked what attracted them, so it remains a mystery to me.

I'll leave this to the old idiom - What is good for the gander is good for the goose (too)! Wink-Wink

Steellover​(sub male) • Jan 28, 2025

I am far younger than Bill Belichik, and (quite honestly) far less successful. (Because let's face it, I suspect most of us average dudes haven't coached an NFL team to six super bowl wins.) With that said, It's not that I wouldn't mind someone a few years younger but... 24 is too young for me. I would prefer someone with comparable maturity and life experience, or who I can at least relate to, and vice versa.

rsparks​(sub female) • Jan 28, 2025

I have mixed emotions about this. I think you should stay within a certain range, but who am I to judge... Everyone will have their own opinion. But most older men with a lot of money do get the trophy wives.

intenseoldman​(dom male) • Jan 28, 2025

Yeah... probably not going to be a boy toy at this age. I most likely wouldn't be breaking an eighty year old's heart... just her hips.

There was a woman in her forties lived across the street when I was 19, so I get a young man's interest in being a cougar cub.

I like the what's sauce for gooses and ganders take.

It's been rolling around in my brain and just wanted to see different perspectives.

Sugarkitty​(sub female) • Jan 28, 2025

I think for women, age serves as a quick gauge of what we look for in a mate - can this man provide? Protect? Procreate? (This is from Scott Galloway) So usually the older you are, the more likely you are to be economically stable and emotionally mature which will satisfy the first two. But the third one becomes questionable. Younger men can meet the criteria but the chances are just lower. The frontal lobe isn’t even fully developed until age 25.

Fyglia Wicked​(dom female) • Jan 28, 2025

Scrutinized in what way?

SoftSoul​(masochist female) • Jan 29, 2025

Companionship partnership they support each other she was called a lady friend at first but came more as his girlfriend. They enjoy each other company as friends and partners. The energy and body language they are attracted to each other keep it as companionship they dated since 2022. They help each other with life and business they get along great can laugh and have a bit of romance that is a soul companionship. She was a cheerleader and attended college when they first dated she has a Bachelor of Arts in Philosophy, and has her own business now. Read about them you will understand it will be what it is so what let them be. Live how you want you go on with your life looking at other things even nature good vacation in adventure.


"Which is more important" ask Big Panda, " the journey or the destination?"

" The Company, " Said the Tiny Dragon.


Some young ladies might date someone because of do of maturity level as well as their respect but not all are older they want someone to lead and guide not all is this forever depends. But just as Older looks for Older. Not all sex more the company.


Age and looks does not matter not the money this is more of good leadership many men will date younger or older just as women have dated younger or older. Give and take but both mold like yin and yang as with dark and light the wheel turns It is all up to you to choose how you want to live life just think before you leap. We are in different times but as long as no one harming anyone. Everyone has a preference but it should stay as 18 to up as it should I feel there is a line that draws but let people be you be you who cares live your life keep going let people be happy you be happy. Be whatever you want with no titles or age be whatever age you feel. The economy will get better just believe in yourself.



George and Amal Clooney have a pretty good age gap but they are taking a break but what can I say let it be. Things can happen when people are together for a long time or stay or may change. Things can happen and love can change but people may remain friends and both people find new love. If divorce does happen not over only beginning and starting over and a new leaf has fallen you get a second chance to life. Life is not over only beginning each day is a new day the sun rises so begin as a renewed person.


But there are bigger things in the world that this country is cracking down the pedo putting those who are involved where they belong off the street in behind bars. The county is changing the golden era and they cracking down on things the economy will get better in time the streets and life will be clean. Before many may not wanted to settle but many will with a good economy.

Not everyone marries for love but there can be love and friendship relationships with companionship short-term to long-term.
Not the money and looks it's more the spiritual intellect connection she is not after his money she has her own the girl has brains.
Age is only a number. it's more of the connection, the glow of the good attitude, humor, and laughter with good heart and soul in how they carry themself.

I have done companionship relationships but I was in my middle 20s as an art student. The ex at the time was 50 and had done the whole marriage 5 times he just wanted a great friendship with companionship and we got along but we had space to do what we wanted I had my own room and bathroom he trusted me more than his own son's to watch the house. I did not ask for anything I had my own he gifted me things. I did my share of tidying the house a bit making sure who came in the house was safe I could read people well. But even after we parted I was moving he said you've always been an intelligent gal to have around.


Companionship to Marriage These Gentlemen want a good partner in leadership with support and value in the relationship and business someone who has a good mind and is street smart someone who can carry it with good character in a good position and values a good reputation on both parts. They want someone to be their best friend , lover , support , guide , share life with , soul to soul , yin and yang , ride or die.



Trophy wives are side dishes these guys put the car first and the women second no one should be treated in that matter more of appearance Yes a Woman deserves to be treasured. But the guy after body and looks not the brains side he forces a prenup it is more of the sex of the relationship not forever one. The guy looking for trophies bit of a control freak has a sex addiction wants to try to change the gal so much that he gets tired of it. That is why always good to love yourself be careful with your heart be selective right one will support you in your goals and dreams as theirs in a partnership. Tropyhy can turn themself around and better their life know their value to be more as treasure. I saw some people get hurt and seen a lot of things in my life I would want to see someone go through the same.

There was a girl back in my hometown who had a scholarship she could get in any college she was attractive but she changed from sweet to running after things. Her mother forced her to see this broker realtor the guy was in his 80s. Well, she wanted to be a country singer her mother thought would be best so she got this guy they did marry in the local paper and got to people talking. Well, she did seem to be like the greedy kind they did have a prenup. Her mother may done this but the girl was sweet she did love him she volunteered her time and donated. She did not become a big star singer but she got to sing at big fairs. She did her part in the community on Halloween she gave out hotdogs with her husband at the VFW gall at the big town Halloween party.

After money and fame and looking more at society's fantasy world, this is what they may only know til they live it and see how other things are. This fantasy world is only for a little while when the women and friends are gone like what great Gatsby he faked his life in the end lost it all the house looked like a horror movie. Things can be replaced but human beings are priceless remember what you have the people you have around you who stay in the hard times will support you in the rough and good times and care to stay even at the end of the madness. A cottage would be good enough a bigger place flashy things break and need upkeep.

Some had no choice but to do things to put food on the table and make an honest living. no one should have to sell their soul to a slave to a country.
Stop living by society and start living better. Everyone wants the easy but not all will do the climb to get to the good things not that hard just doing the work and taking the time to do it. Know one coming to be anyone partner to be paycheck only thing is be the partner for yourself and value it higher it better with good gratitude. But if you don't like the life you're living then create a new one. Know one's fault but up to you to change your life for better things the courage you have to thrive. Look into letting go of the past the past is not your present. Don't chase things that feel like a trap and you're not getting anything out of you will be waiting a lifetime. Change the course go flow not a rush a rush will not work but flow will always work. As the economy changes so will people's lives people will want to stop being alone and want to be with someone. It's a new year lets look to the good of it.