JD Dom(dom male)
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4 years ago •
Jun 9, 2020
4 years ago •
Jun 9, 2020
Good points made all around. I suppose some clarification is in order.
The "greeting" message I'm referring to is not "Hi." or "What's up". Those get under my skin, as well. No, I'm talking about a brief introduction followed by an expression of interest, maybe a comment about something they said in their profile, one of their interests, etc. Finally a request for her to see my own profile to determine if there is anything appealing to her. So no, I'm not talking about hollow greeting from someone with a blank profile or a canned intro mail.
There is only one comment I don't agree with. I don't think I should feel grateful when a sub deigns to read and respond to my polite message. It's courtesy (based on the respectful approach of my own greeting) to respond with even a short reply indicating they aren't interested. Like I said, short and creepy, I get it.
I'm also not in the shoes of a sub with a good profile. I don't experience a mass volume of replies or mails of interest. I don't think I would feel differently than I do if I got a lot of mail. If I were in her shoes, I would respond "in kind" as has been pointed out. A thoughtful inquiry obviously tailored to myself would get a better response than a short blurb or a word or two.
I'm not running this poll to change anyone's behavior towards me personally. LOL It's just food for thought. If I search out 10 subs, say... subs who have posted a personal ad, and I craft responses individual to those 10 ads, if no-one replies so much as a peep, I wonder what's wrong with myself as a candidate. It's also frustrating in the sense that I DIDN'T send a mindless blurb, but a response based on their individual ads.
Anyway, I promise I'm not soliciting pity. I'm just curious to find out the mentality behind why people do or do not reply to messages.
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