I need answers

needysubmiss • May 2, 2021

Hello I tried to message you but I am not able to.
Yes the guy about implants already tried to contact me.

Cinders​(sub female) • May 2, 2021

Ooops... Apologies, I forgot that messaging isn't a free feature here. Well, in that case, feel free to ask me questions here in the forums, but I am also on FetLife.

dollMaker​(dom male) • May 2, 2021

Cinders, I think if you message the op, because you started the convo the op can reply.

Cinders​(sub female) • May 2, 2021

Thanks, dollMaker{SaViDa}. I tried that too, but I may only message premium members here currently. Each website has a different paywall it seems!

dollMaker​(dom male) • May 2, 2021

@Cinders, that's a shame.

Dressing​(dom male) • May 2, 2021

I'm a little bit confused as to what you were saying. But please don't think I'm pointing fingers, I obviously just can't see the bigger picture.
You were new, and you had a master who was willing to train you, and it sounds like it was going really well. You bonded and then you wanted more, but you two weren't communicating well. I hope I'm right in presuming that he was growing distant, as you said there was "no excitement or play". Then he breaks the news that he was looking for another submissive with more experience.

To me, it sounds like he lost interest somehow. And, again, I'm not pointing fingers, but it sounds like something went wrong between you two somewhere. For some reason he didn't care to train/teach you anymore and just decided to flat out look for someone else more experienced, despite saying he would train you in the beginning. That must've been a really horrible experience for you, especially since people sometimes are very vague about expressing if they're unhappy with something, and then when they break the news it catches you off guard.
In my experience, when someone stops interacting, in this case when he stopped the "excitement and play", it's because they're losing interest or disengaging from the relationship.

Again, I hope you understand that you two are both human, and to err is to be human. It might be that you two just didn't click well together, and he didn't have an easy way to tell you. For example, a lot of people who ghost simply think it's the "easiest" way out, instead of having a confrontation or anything like that, though he did give you a bit of closure and told you it was over. Again, harsh experience but seeking help from other subs is the right way to go about it, I think. Not because you need to change, but because it's nice to have a support group when you're beginning to doubt yourself.

Lastly, I think it's in very poor taste to call the man a "fake dom", as people who say that typically have no idea, or have an elitist view of what a dom should be. Truth, we're on a forum where different degrees of dominance and submissiveness is found, but that doesn't mean ANYONE has any right to brand ANYONE in a certain light. It is a very easy thing to do, to use the fallacy "no true scotsman" instead of coming up with an actual explanation as to why the dom acted the way he did.

I wish you all the best, good luck and fortune in your search for a new master, and I hope you can shake this uncomfortable experience off! The important thing is to not give up, and now you might be able to spot the warning signs if it's about to happen again!

OraclePollon​(sub female){NotYours} • May 3, 2021

Unrelated but this made me chuckle. If someone wants me to call them Sir or Master after pulling out punk fuzzy handcuffs, I run. If your tools are from a gag gift surprise bag, then there is bound to be a problem.

IowaDom​(dom male) • May 3, 2021

I think perhaps what you found was a "fling" not a dynamic, at least on his end. Lots of good advice here ....