Miki(masochist female)
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1 week ago •
Dec 26, 2024
You asked how to address a dom(me) with whom you are not in a dynamic... Address them as you would anyone on the street or with whom you are acquainted in a "by the light of day" relationship, as in a coworker or neighbor.
Dominants I have known over the years don't particularly seek any special titles or reverence from one who happens to be a sub any more than they would from strangers or casual acquaintences. As written above (actually everything I wrote has already been put forth but just my 2 cents as one who is not a sub, only a sexual masochist some years back, and that's just how I handle this scenario.) -- don't overthink it. When people overthink shit, shit tends to overstink... figuratively speaking of course. --------------------------------- And as for what TD said about addressing envelopes... I keep that simple, the once or twice a year I send mail to anyone. For example: Jack Shit (Or Current Resident) X Y Bumbfuck Ave Moosedick, Montana (zip code +4) |
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chattel(sub female)
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1 week ago •
Dec 28, 2024
My choice is to call them Sir or Miss in a DM or private chat but no title in public forums.
If the Dom takes that as a sign of submission to him rather than a sign of respect he has self vetted himself out |
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dollMaker(dom male)
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1 week ago •
Dec 28, 2024
Use their chosen name on here, or elsewhere, but if any title is in that scene name, I would leave it off, because to my mind thats a really cheeky way of trying to get people to use an honorific. The only exception I would make, would be within an official leather context, where the title was earned via that lifestyles codes, assesments and peers thinking the person is worthy of a general title. There are of course wanabee so called leather folks trying it on too, as there are in other kink circles, no more genuine leather, than £20 leather trousers bought new of any fast fashion website.
There maybe situations, or circumstances when your dominant might instruct you to call someone via a title/honorific, thats then between your top and you. |
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YourJoy(sub female)
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1 week ago •
Dec 29, 2024
For some of us, it is a matter of culture and is not something to earn or a title. It is how we communicate. "Excuse me Sir, I am trying to get to xyz. Do you know the best way to get there?"
In fact, depending on tone, it wouldn't be one of honor, "Sir, please check yourself. I don't think you know who you're talking to."... "Mister, if you know what's good for you, leave me alone." What this has done, in a space as this, is for me to be intentional with addressing others because it might be misinterpreted as submission or interest. |
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Cello Trance{for You}
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1 week ago •
Dec 29, 2024
YourJoy wrote: For some of us, it is a matter of culture and is not something to earn or a title. It is how we communicate. "Excuse me Sir, I am trying to get to xyz. Do you know the best way to get there?"
In fact, depending on tone, it wouldn't be one of honor, "Sir, please check yourself. I don't think you know who you're talking to."... "Mister, if you know what's good for you, leave me alone." What this has done, in a space as this, is for me to be intentional with addressing others because it might be misinterpreted as submission or interest. You definitely sound like you’re from the south. My mom is from Alabama. I know the culture well. |
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YourJoy(sub female)
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6 days ago •
Dec 29, 2024
Cello Trance, just a Caribbean girl, but I guess the social etiquette (in how one communicates with others) is similar.
Good morning. |
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Lit By Kit(sub female)
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5 days ago •
Dec 30, 2024
Most Doms that I deal with would not be comfortable with a submissive they are not in a dynamic referring to them as Sir, Master, etc.
And any Don that expects you to call him (or her) that when you don’t know them, aren’t in a dynamic and haven’t consented to doing so - not a real Dom/me in my opinion. The crux in our entire Wonderland is consent. If, for example, TopekaDom asked you to call him Sir - that is him gaining your consent in that. However, if he TOLD you that his name is “Master TopekaDom” or even “Sir” then he is not gaining your consent for that honorific and could absolutely be considered as being in violation of proper protocol and also just common decency. Sorry, TD, for using you as an example but you were the most recent Dom to reply on the first page (I didn’t traverse to the second before replying) and so the easiest in my book to use as an example!! |
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K y i v
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5 days ago •
Dec 30, 2024
Call me anything but "late to dinner"
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Cello Trance{for You}
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5 days ago •
Dec 30, 2024
K y i v wrote: Call me anything but "late to dinner"
Absolutely. Now that is a tried and true expression. Used it many times myself 
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SayYesMaam(dom female)
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4 days ago •
Jan 1, 2025
Maam
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