An interesting thought about the male mind

your slave always​(switch male) • Mar 4, 2020

@Submissive women

I believe it's more to do with self confidence and yes porn have made uncalled rules for men and women both, it's not hard to find a dick pic or dick but what's hard is to find a man or women who has his personal senses Active to know what he really wants. It's really easy to find hard dicks but really hard to find a Kinky yet sensable person.

TNS​(dom male) • Mar 4, 2020

Why has no one pointed out the flip side to this??? i relate this question to woman and their Boobs. alot of girls want big boobs and think that they are sexier that way. It goes the same way for guys (big cock more girls) I was a comedian when i was younger and would joke about how small my cock was but i would see the look on the girls face when they think they get a tick tack and instead have a happy meal in their face.

No Body​(dom male) • Mar 4, 2020

I am average. I want to be wanted and needed for who I am and what I give not the size of my cock or the way I can swing a paddle. I have my times when I have to hold back because i know she can take so much and yes it is not easy but it must be done. I also have my times when all I want to do is tie her up and start at her ankles and lick and kiss up to her nose. I guess there are guys who think more with their cock than with anything else.

Thinking Naughty​(dom male) • Jun 28, 2020

Short answer is yes. A large dick = confidence = sense of superiority = more likely dominant.

The trick is that dominance also comes from a power, sense of nurturing, and competence, not just superiority.

Also, ladies try to be understanding of two things:
1) If several guys post size and I don't, in the back of my mind I wonder, will women think I am small because I didn't?
2) You ladies are sexual all over, for most guys we only have our cocks. All sex for most of us is that. All of it. So sexy and sexual automatically mean penis and we're proud of what we have. We love em and naturally want to share them. Of course it's narcissistic and demonstrates a misunderstanding of women but we're all guilty of getting wrapped up in our own heads.

My dick is as long as my hand (the long way), I am happy with it, but I don't post because I don't care if women guess that I am small. Almost every woman I have kissed has either told me she loved me or asked about having kids. I have limitless confidence for that and many many other reasons. Not every man does. Confidence is rare. Even gorgeous women struggle with it. (I hate to defend the practice but) Just recognize the child in them showing when they post dicks pics, feel a little sorry for them, and try to look past it. It strongly suggests they are losers but you can't accurately judge based on one little* thing.

*see what I did there?

RavenN • Jun 28, 2020

@Submissive woman asked, "Does the size of a cock have something to do with how dominant or submissive a man thinks?"

If it does then the dominant or submissive is most likely new to their chosen role. A cock is a cock is a cock. We can purchase cocks online, in most any form and size.
There's no need for me to spell it out. Use your brain. The mind is the most powerful tool that humans possess.

FunCouple{.-Couple-.} • Jun 28, 2020

I used to come out of the shower and play helicopter.
You know, shake the hips so your willy would spin around and around.
I stopped after awhile because I kept knocking Kitty’s stuff off the side table and I once knocked myself out.
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This could be true or it could just be the early onset of cabin fever caused by Covid 19 lockdown.
Either way... made me chuckle and had Kitty roll her eyes.
FC

PS
The upside is... I don’t accept eye rolling 😎

WhatamIfightingfor​(dom male){CurvyB} • Jun 29, 2020

I just hear about it and all that come across is he is un-socalized, and does not understand basic rules of social interaction.

tallslenderguy​(other male) • Jun 29, 2020

Yet another great question in thecage.

The nerd/scientist in me immediately looked for study evidence. Turns out, this is a studied topic, though i didn't find any large, randomized, double blind studies, elements that make results more reliable. Here's and article discussing study evidence:

Louann Brizendine M.D., psychiatrist and neurologist, who studies the effect of physiology on behavior, notes in her book "The Male Brain"
"Even though most men say they wish they had a larger penis, 85% of women say they're happy with their partner's size. Women report being most turned on by other physical features, like his eyes, smile, jawline, and muscles. And when it comes to being selected as a long-term partner, studies show that men get more mileage out of improving their personality and their bank accounts than out o investing in penile enlargement. But regardless of what women think, many men erroneously believe penis size is their most important feature" (Page 69, "The Male Brain" by Louann Brizendine).

https://www.sciencemag.org/news/2013/04/final-word-penis-size

tallslenderguy​(other male) • Jun 29, 2020

Science aside, my own personal take as a gay bottom/sub male.

There is evidence that the gay male brain is different from the straight male brain, but no pinpoint stuff i am aware of regarding this topic?

i notice a guys ass as much as i notice His cock, which seems odd to me as a total bottom. i mean, His ass makes a great pillow or handle, and is visually sublime, but i am not wired to penetrate, so my desires towards a guys ass stay surface.

When it comes to His cock? Maybe it's a split second visual attractor, but i look at other stuff to determine who i want/need. If you lined up several guys side by side and gave me a choice, their penis would not be what determined my choice. For me, it's the overall personality and demeanor that attract me, sexually and otherwise. For me, the physical is of little importance (even sexually) compared to the size of Their inner 'cock.' And i don't mean cockiness. In my opinion, that generally comes off as shallow, and shallow is not at all a turn for me. Honesty, vulnerability are much more potent to me than physical prowess or bravado.

Give me a keen intellect intent on seduction over a large cock any day, Their chances of penetrating and 'inseminating' me are much larger than phallus size would influence.

FloraDragon​(dom male){Roaming Wi} • Jun 29, 2020

I agree with Duke Monteford, for me age, size, physical appearance is irrespective of the holistic beauty an individual has, I prefer profiles to me tasteful and clothed - I want to unwrap, the expectation is part of the whole experience. I am confident in who I am I do not need to advertise my penis, if you don't like me as an individual my penis picture will make no difference. I need to find a person interesting.

With respect to size matters - that act of penetration can me a minimal amount of time when you consider all the time for build up, fore play, play time etc. Therefore size may matter if you are just talking penetration. So in my opinion size does not need to matter.