Can't seem to meet a dominant women

Villanelle​(staff) • Nov 19, 2025

This article is always worth a read if you are looking for a mistress: https://thecage.co/magazine,166.html

Tributes are a bullshit scammer thing so I'd take it as a red flag and probably halt conversation altogether. It's not the same as buying a gift for your dominant in an established relationship. But needing to pay to engage someone is simply online scammer behaviour, performed by people who likely have no interest in D/s and are often not who or what they say they are.

And of course, please report them as asking for gifts, tributes, money, etc., violates our rules.

Servitwo​(sub male) • Nov 19, 2025

Wow thank you very much.. I've been having people ask for money or tributes.. I had a feeling it was a red flag. Thank you ill read that magazine. Thank you

Servitwo​(sub male) • Nov 19, 2025

People asking for money, or compensation for their time hence tributes

That is my opinion

Steellover​(sub male) • Nov 19, 2025

It is, sadly, not uncommon among submissive males to have trouble finding a partner. I can certainly relate. It is tough on many levels, especially when it comes to simple numbers. If you've been on this site for a while you will probably notice that female subs and male dominants greatly outnumber the "Other" dynamic, and sadly, male subs also greatly outnumber female dominants.

I don't know what the OP's experience level is or how long he has been in the hunt. I do know that, for a lot of newbies, it is easy to forget that you are looking for a RELATIONSHIP- just like in the vanilla world- and just like in the vanilla world, a relationship should be mutually fulfilling for both. It is far too easy to get so into your own sub-frenzied head, and focus too much on fulfillment of your own fantasies rather than on a real connection. Again, I am not saying this is true of the OP, as I have not read his blogs or posts; I apologize if I am being presumptuous. I do know from experience that sometimes, turning to a "Pro" or pay for play experience may help fulfill some of your fantasies in the short term, but in the long term you will still crave that lasting connection which a pro simply cannot offer.

SubStanChill​(sub male) • Nov 19, 2025

I second what Steellover said. For the long term, focus on building a relationship in which the dynamic can comfortably find a place. Don’t start the dynamic, expecting it to blossom into a relationship.