Enamored Dominant or Just a Lunatic?

SkipperC​(dom male) • Oct 18, 2019

i would tell him to get on this sight and be willing to learn and be criticized on how he thinks being a dom is supposed to go. At this point he could just be back pedaling momentarily because he knows your talking with others and will just put back on pressure in a few days, or he's a naive virgin who has read way to much hentai and watched to much porn and then should deffinetly come on this sight so he would understand how things are actually done. Dont let a few fun days blind you from the truth, fact is hes known who for less than a week and went straight into trying to control your life thats not healthy even if you take your time he will most likely go right back to that and you will get hurt badly.

justwatching • Oct 18, 2019

As Notok said on the moving:
Why do you need to move in with him so quickly if he’s an hour away. Get to know each other! YOU ARE AN HOUR AWAY. That makes literally no sense to move in with him. ESPECIALLY so soon. that is utter bullshit.
Breeding: are YOU ready and WANTING children by a man you met a week ago? Also, you are 22. How responsible are you? A BABY is not a toy or something you can put down when you’re exhausted. ALSO. is HE EVEN FINANCIALLY READY TO TAKE CARE OF YOU AND A BABY???!!!
Babies are expensive. Kids are expensive.
How do you know once he’s bred you he won’t kick you and this baby to the curb.
You don’t know anything. How do you know he doesn’t have any STD’s.
You don’t. How are you already talking about a contract where you give your life over to him when you don’t know his medical history? He could ruin your life and give you any disease. And don’t tell me “oh he said he’s clean” BULLSHIT. You need a signed document from a doctor proving he is clean.
He is psycho and stop trying to rationalize us with “oh we talk for this many hours and game this many hours” because living with someone and TALKING with someone are VERY different. He is a predator and PREYING on your innocent heart. He is MANIPULATING you. RUN.

justwatching • Oct 18, 2019

I would LOVE for you to screenshot every comment on this post and show it to him. Or even better, have him get on the cage and he can have a taste from us. We have your back.
I would gladly have a conversation with him about how absolutely wrong he is about everything. He is NOT A DOM. He is a predator and using the lifestyle as an excuse to grab onto you.

SkipperC​(dom male) • Oct 18, 2019

Release him to the hounds we shall devour the untrue of heart the thief the basterd and the cheat, all but meat to THE CAGE ... lol but for real get him on here.

meeshymeesh​(sub female) • Oct 18, 2019

He doesn’t know I posted to this forum, nor does he know I even have this account. So I didn’t say that I was going to move in with him or go on in having kids with him, I wanted to know if this was typical behavior or not. I got my answer, and I thank you all for that. I’m not trying to rationalize you or anyone as I am just stating the facts that you all don’t know him and that maybe he was just mentored improperly. His idea was that being that he’s financially dependable, he could take care of me and a kid if need be, which no, I’m not interested in raising a kid under those conditions. I know that babies are a lot of work and I’m still young. I stated how much time we’ve spent talking and whatnot to show that we have been attracted to one another enough to talk at all times of the day and night as some people here were saying that he doesn’t seem to be showing any signs of affection or anything. He’s already tried saying I love you this soon which I makes me feel even more that he’s a bit caught up in the idea of things. I’m hoping to get him to step back and be realistic.

SkipperC​(dom male) • Oct 18, 2019

well meesh if he was mentored improperly and he doesn't come on the cage then he will just be a bad dom and treat you wrongly.

LongerJohnny​(dom male) • Oct 18, 2019

Meeshy, I'll say this last thing then I'll quit piling on. I imagine it must have gotten somewhat overwhelming.
I think you may still be missing the point. You seem to prefer a romanticized version of the entire situation. You just do not have a trusting, safe, familiar relationship with this guy. That needs to be enough of a reason for you not to do it.

Correct me if I'm mistaken but It sounds like you are trying to justify his game by blindly playing along.
"So even if he’s willing to change according to my requests I should still ditch him?"
If he's playing on your naivety (and he is) then saying anything to placate you is a part of the game! You can't trust this guy and frankly he can't trust you eitherif for no other reason than because you don't know each other. It's that simple. Should you still you ditch him? There is nothing or no one to ditch because you aren't in a legit relationship.

"I know he may seem like a monster based on my post, but..."
Does that not suggest your willingness to sacrifice your own intuition for some stranger?
He wants to meet your mom and you're actually consider this as a good thing? You do not have a relationship with him! Under what pretense would you introduce him? "Mom, I'd like to introduce you to my... stranger?" At the very least do not subject your mom to that.

"I’m just trying to see what is what."
That is good, An excellent idea. Do it from a distance.

Finally, for what it's worth I've used dating sites before. I met some great ladies, got a whole lot of consensual laid, and everyone moved on. And that happens all the time. Sadly, on many occasions someone gets hurt or feels used. So the dating site thing is a weak supporting argument. It merely supports the notion that just meeting a stranger (in this case on another site) is the same as having a real relationship like what we've been discussing.
So the point you may be missing is that the level of commitment that you want to make should not exist at all because the relationship does not exist. The rest is irrelevant.
Definitely good luck.

SirsSunrise​(sub female) • Oct 18, 2019

My vote is lunatic, and run. He will be controlling and he is using the lifestyle to do that. I’m actually afraid for you, RUN!!

meeshymeesh​(sub female) • Oct 18, 2019

Again, thanks for the responses I have taken into account what you all have said and have taken action based on that. I’m more than willing to post an update later that way y’all know I’m not dead or anything.

Also to clarify, he wanted to do something for Thanksgiving, in hopes to meet my mom. Not just as a stranger. I mainly just wanted to know if it was normal for such expectations, and I see that it is not. I do appreciate the respondes and I have deemed them to be helpful despite many of you messaging me stating that they don’t know why I am not just cutting him off based on the responses. You all helped me out a great deal, I understand I have a lot to learn as well.

LongerJohnny​(dom male) • Oct 18, 2019

I'm sure we were all happy to help. If only all communities responded as one the way we just did for you the world might be a better place.
Yes, please do let us all know how things progress for you.