Re: What kind of Dom or sub are you?
1 year ago • 02/14/2019 3:59 am
Miki(masochist female) • 02/14/2019 3:59 am
I've been tooling around various websites looking at "types" to see what sorts of categories there are and which would seem to fit my nature. I know that types and labels are arbitrary ad only apply very broadly, if at all. But they can still be fun. So what kind of Dom or sub are you? In what way does whatever category apply to you? In what ways do you differ from it.
Labels and definitions from here - https://kuldrinskrypt.com/types-of-bdsm-dominants <---- I make no claims as to the usefulness of this site.
Gentlemen and Ladies - Dominants who behave in chivalrous, and honorable ways towards their submissives and often any who surround them. They showcase respect and good manners in all things. This would be tied for top for me. I like courtesy and civility and take it very seriously. I absolutely hate to give unintentional offense and generally go out of my way to demonstrate respect. I am also very sensitive to purposeful discourtesy and I am savage in my response to it.
Sadists - are those who gain sexual pleasure from causing pain to others. This can be physical or mental.
Laughing Sadists are those who will be very Joker-esque in their play, often laughing or cackling as they perform impact play or hurt their consenting submissive in some other way.
Sensual Sadists will couple pain with sensuality and pleasure. This would be the other number one. I like inflicting pain because that means I am in control. I like the look on her face and the sounds that pain elicits. I like seeing the after effects. Yup, I am a gentleman sadist.
Caring Dominants - Focus on taking care of their submissives, not in the sense of servicing them, but in the sense of caring for them physically, mentally, and emotionally. Not only do I not want to do no harm, I want to actively do good. I want her to feel uplifted and good about herself and the whole of her abilities. I enjoy being supportive through trials as much as celebrating triumphs. To me that is an inherent part of any relationship.
So please allow me to introduce myself, I am EnforcedBliss the Caring Gentleman Sadist It is a pleasure to meet you all.
eta: if you don't mind, please post links to where you draw your information from. Thanks
The best part. "Please allow me to introduce myself..." So bet you're appreciative of sympathy and taste too..
Some quarters would confuse you with Ol' Scratch.
So, the header asks what sort of dom or sub be the reader... You listed a pleasant range of doms but you left out the subs.
I'm a masochist.. A tiny little division of Subland. But I'm in it for the sex, preferably accentuated with pain and humiliation. I get off by being put in my place. I'm a feminist's nightmare--- but we all gotta do our thing, a finer definition of "liberation".
For the record, as a masochist who makes no commitments, I'm not really qualified to say but if I change my approach.. "settle down" and all that crap, the sensual sadist is my bag.
That having been said, sadists are a tricky lot. Hard to tell the ones who exact punishment for their sexual pleasure, meaning it's a mutual good time in my book-- and the freaks of which there are more than we'd like to think about-- who torture others to sate some deep-seated need that goes beyond sexuality. The creeps who we see on the news every now and then. Psychos.
Trouble is, nut cases are more than capable of affecting a likable comportment.
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