Prostate milking/massaging

Prostate milking/massaging

Lotus​(sub female) • Aug 1, 2019

I’ve heard (read) that men can achieve intense orgasms while experiencing an internal prostate massage.

I have never done this, nor have I been with someone who enjoys this (that I know of).

I’m a sub who is inquisitive and would like to gain new experiences. I obviously know each D/s relationship dynamic is different and this is possibly something that occurs more often in a D/s relationship where the s is male.

I’m reaching out for opinions, experiences, advice, etc.
Anyone really enjoy prostate orgasms?
I want to hear real experiences!

DrWakko • Aug 1, 2019

The first step is talking to your partner. You would be surprised how many people have an open mind to trying new things.

AKittenforSir​(sub female){JohnBond} • Aug 1, 2019

There are many who don’t not like it simply for the “nothing goes in or near my backside” taboo mentality.

However, in my experience, most men enjoy it (Top and bottom) as it relates to the actual feeling/sensation.

NoOneofConsequence​(dom male){Taken} • Aug 6, 2019

About... mmm... 30 years ago (I think), I was embroiled in a college study path aimed towards the end result that I would be a Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in Sex Therapy. And one of the courses to that end was Senior level Psych course that was labeled something like "Sexual Deviancy" or something like that. We covered the usual suspects. Guys that go into clothing stores and masturbate on the lingerie (without a woman wearing it). Or shoe stores for the same purpose. Lots of stuff. Anything and everything that was outside the mainstream "normal" or "vanilla" from a purely psychological bent.

Then a day came when the instructor announced that the next class, we would be watching porn. And attendance was not mandatory since it would involve watching explicit sexual interaction for the entire class period.

Now, me being a 20 year old guy (and a clinically diagnosed sex addict), I wasn't about to miss out on this! So, naturally, I showed up at my usual time and sat in my usual seat. And, do you know, not as many people skipped that day as one might think. Although there were a fair few.

However, it was NOT an off the shelves porn tape by a production company. Nope, nope, nope. It was some amateur footage by couples that one or the other of them had an infirmity or another that made "normal" or "vanilla" sex either impossible, or at the least unsatisfying.

The reason I mention it... hell, the reason I remember it all this time later... is because the second couple, he was a parapalegic. Had no feeling at all from the waist down. EXCEPT for his prostate. He could not have an erection.

Now, when it was her turn, he set to with a vengeance with his mouth and hands. And, at the risk of sounding like I'm toodling my own horn, I was already pretty damn good. But, holy fuck! I took notes! (And from reports, got even better thereby.)

Then, it was his turn. And I was confused as she started swarming down his body. I mean, the nipples made sense. Somewhat. But, his dick didn't work. So, what was she going to do for... EEP!

I had a flashback to... ah, a rather distasteful incident from sixteen years earlier (and that's all I'm going to say on that subject other than to add "if it's your thing, then it's your thing. But, I'm not gonna apologize for it not being mine anymore than you should apologize for it being yours").

Fortunately, I didn't have an enemy to fight and my fight or flight switch broke in the on position several years prior. So, I wasn't even tempted to haul ass (all puns intended). I was able to get my breathing under control and, although I was very uncomfortable for different reasons than most in that room, learn a few things.

First, and foremost, that she must have really loved him incredibly much to give him the ONLY route of physical gratification still available to him from below his nipples.

Now, here's the thing, Lotus. I, too, at the time, thought that it would be a submissive posture for him. And I was surprised to learn that it wasn't. Unlike Bondage and Discipline or Sadism and Masochism, Dominance and Submission is... perhaps 90% the mindset of the participants. And in their mindset, she was doing something FOR him, not TO him. She was serving him. He was accepting her service.

Which just confused me worse because then wouldn't that mean that when he was tongue lashing her so assiduously and finger banging her pussy and ass through several orgasms that he was submissive to her at that point? Not at all. For, once again, their mindset was that she was serving him. That her many orgasms were a badge of her surrender and her love.

And right about here, I should probably shut the fuck up. However, being the curious sort, I went off and did my own researches trying to figure out just how the hell a guy could have a climax from that!

And learned a shit ton more besides!

There are all sorts of nerve bundles that for certain people when properly stimulated can lead to an orgasm. But, it all ties back to how their beautiful brain interprets the nerve impulses. What really melted my brain was the intimation that any zone that is "ticklish" is a potential erogenous zone (IF handled correctly). (Which I didn't believe until I made one girl orgasm just by playing with her KNEES!)

For example, some women absolutely can not cum from vaginal penetration but spray like a fountain from proper clitoral stimulation. Others can't climax from anything below the waist, but will from nipple stimulation.

And, yes, some women cum from anal intercourse harder than they ever have from vaginal while others can't stand for a tongue to touch their ass, much less have it penetrated by a cock, because it is hypersensitive... rather, the way their brains interpret the signals is too intense... and either "tickles" or "hurts" or "burns."

The same goes for men! Some can really get off on anal stimulation and especially prostate stimulation, while others (myself included) can't handle more than a good cleaning in the shower. But, it all goes back to what's going on in the head rather than in the gonads. How the brain interprets the electro-chem response from the nerve impulses. (And, yes, the THOUGHTS about it also.)

Always, always, always communication is going to trump non-communication.

Me, I'm pretty straightforward that my ass is a no-fly zone, not even the cheeks, from the first signs that she (and only ever a she, sorry fellas) and I might be exploring things a little further. Because I've learned the hard way that is one of my hard limits. (Even grabbing my ass will kick me over into "Predator" mode and she will find herself pinned down and unable to move more than I will allow as I set to work on her.)

Some (and yes, some Doms) will actively insist on it, even pulling your head in close behind them to get you to rim them as you massage their prostate and fist their shaft with your other hand.

My suggestion is always going to be, if you don't know, then ask if you may be allowed to serve them in this way. If they say no, then go for what you know they like. If they say yes, feel free to admit that you've never done it for anyone before and you will need their guidance, but that you are happy to serve them in this way.

And, now I'm gonna shut the fuck hope and hope I haven't muddled things too badly for someone sharper than me to come along and straighten out.

Azzabackam​(switch male){PawPawGirl} • Aug 6, 2019

While it is typically associated with Dommes milking their subs, it's entirely possible for a man to do it on his own, and while I've never personally heard of a Dom having his sub milk him like this, I'm sure it's out there. I think it's so uncommon because of the "anything going in there = gay" mentality. It's also incredibly easy to damage yourself with anal play of any kind, requires a lot of prep work with every session, and can take a lot of sessions to garner the experience needed to milk a prostate on the regular. It can also kind of desensitize a man to vaginal penetration, in the same way that overly masturbating with your hand can. You become so used to a certain sensation being associated with ejaculation, that anything else, no matter how pleasurable, just doesn't get the same response, so that's another reason it isn't done often.