pi in your eye wrote:
If there are limits put on a relationship with a Dominant, is it actually submitting? Only the two people involved can say. I have had this conversation over and over ad nauseum. Again choose wisely when submitting to a man who claims to be Dominant; because in my humble and very respectful opinion, if you have limits (such as no other submissives or something else), he is submitting to you, not you submitting to Him.
Submitting to a Dominant means giving Him the free rein he needs to be in control.
I of course would never presume to say that you are wrong in your views of submission but really to me that feels more like an M/s dynamic than a D/s one. I do strongly feel that we would continue to disagree on this topic.
So to the Original poster I would say don't be discouraged and would encourage you to do some reading or reach out to your local community if you find your submission in question (often times local communities have groups and support systems for both tops and bottoms). Yes, if you have limits you may never be a kajira, and it might upset some that are, and have earned the title, if you decide to start calling yourself one. However, D/s I think is a little bit broader of a term that I personally don't believe has to encompass complete surrender of limits and boundaries. I figure that's probably why there is two different sets of terms.
I would HATE for it to come off that I don't respect M/s lifestyles though, though that's not how I live I have very much enjoyed the ideas, readings, and traditions involved with it. M/s takes a lot of work on both parts and I admire those that are able to accomplish living a healthy M/s lifestyle!