beach baby(sub female)
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4 years ago •
May 18, 2020
My question for Doms in long distance relationships
How often do you “talk” to your subs?
I’m kinda referring to more of just checking in than the sex stuff. 😊 but of course one usually calls for the other...anyways blush. Yes, it’s a general question and I guess just depends on each relationship. I’m trying to get a feel from the dom’s perspective. I’d talk all day, everyday. ☺️ |
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FlipSide1481(dom male)
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4 years ago •
May 18, 2020
Checking in daily, and encouraged to communicate whenever you need.
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Crow(dom male)
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4 years ago •
May 18, 2020
If the circumstances allow, every day even all day. Always reachable in case of need.
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Mama Bear JJ(dom female){koa}
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4 years ago •
May 19, 2020
Responding more as a sub than a Dom for this one, but ...
I spent the last year in an online only/LDR situation. There was daily communication, some days more than others depending on what we had going on individually. At a minimum we would check in first thing in the morning and lunch (whoever both were later for) and bedtime (whoever's was first). We also usually set aside either one of those check-in's or a separate time period for spending some longer quality time (sexual or otherwise lol). From a sub perspective ... and to save you some potential anxiety, hurt feelings and/or disappointment .. I would suggest discussing it and establishing some minimum expectations for communication. We did this about halfway through and it helped a lot. With expectations set, I couldn't take it personal if the minimum was all that happened .. and, at the same time, if I got more it was even better because it wasn't expected. |
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BDSM DOM(dom male)
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4 years ago •
May 19, 2020
I dont currently have a sub right now. But if i did, it would be daily contact
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SIRMASON(dom male)
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4 years ago •
May 19, 2020
me myself i want daily contact checking in and she also needs to ask if there is any tasks that needs to be done for the day
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Devotedsub(sub female){His}
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4 years ago •
May 19, 2020
Responding as a sub that has been in an online relationship for 3 and a half months. It really all depends on the agreement and dynamic. Of course, it's great to keep in touch as much as possible. Daily really is best, from a submissives perspective because it is just good to have check ins and you need time for the relationship / bond to grow. Of course, in some situations, some have rl situations that may prevent this at times. I think it is important to discuss this ahead of time and make sure both Dom and sub have a full understanding of the rl situation(s), why they exist, and what their meaning is. If not, you're headed for a lotttt if pain and heart break when you begin to understand, especially when you might think you come first and it ends up not being that way. Or expectations are ok for one and not for another.
Overall, good communication, requires time. Both things are essential for any relationship, especially an online dynamic. |
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skyrich(dom male){rottenbrat}
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4 years ago •
May 19, 2020
As for myself and my girl, we have a call every morning and every evening. Usually the evening call is a few hours long. Additionally, we text during the day while each of us is at work.
In other words, it's as close to "in person" as possible. Were it not for COVID, we'd have already had several face-to-face encounters. Once all of this nonsense is done, we expect to have much more face-to-face time, and the LDR part of our relationship will come to an end. 
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