SirsBabyDoll wrote:
Yes, the emotional toll is hard....and sometimes it's hard to hold your tongue and allow people to just "be".
Not to mention just not liking someone so much that simply seeing their name sets your teeth on edge.
True. But we must also consider that people that fall on hard times and want nothing to do with each other...
Also tend to miss each other even when they're afraid and hate each others guts. I have exes that blocked me. But then we're there for each other. Do you really want to lose someone for good? Don't have to always talk to them but without the odd "Hey. Hi. Sup." it makes further communication (and therefor good relations) impossible. And even if you do toss someone aside and cut them out of your life it still doesn't change the fact you had your own hand in how you both suffered. Your own responsibility for it. Of which you might have tried to dodge and circumvent and deny.
Then you see them. Even if blocked, even if ignored. In the same area. You think about them even when logging into the same site. Trying to forget. Yet remembering how you hurt each other. With the question lingering. "Can we improve on the past". It haunts you. Can make you do stupid shit.
So, if we're talking SPECIFICALLY about that, then I state that people that get back in touch tend to work things out somehow. Extreme volatile situations included. Not guaranteed but the chance is enough for me. Even if it means lots of misunderstandings and wondering why you can't make each other happy. Or even hating, provided the other person remains in control. It's the "out of control" that you have to worry about. Especially when it falls under good intentions. It gets technical. And falling into other topics.
On the other hand if someone is a closed minded judgemental clown that kink shames and insults you pretending not to be afraid I wouldn't hesitate to put them on block. If only because they're being a hypocrite and showing how out of control their fear is. The fear I do not mind. can love it even. When controlled. But calling someone easily triggered when you insult people? Complaining about how people assume when they compare you to others? You get the idea. It's not even the hypocrisy that bothers me. It's the lack of accountability and claiming responsibility for ones own actions. Well, that and the HONESTY of the situation. Assumptions are that. Assumptions. Assumptions stem from fear. Mistrust IS fear.
Can love a monster. Can't do anything about someone not even aware of what they do. I'll give people a chance if they talk down on me. But if you can't even admit why then, understanding as I am, even I'm done with that. It's the only time I block people. Any other situation can end well even if unpleasant. But I can guarantee this won't. You can't trust someone that can't even admit their own fears and insecurities. And i'm my experience people like that turn their back on you the first chance they get. even my toxic ex (she's a sweetheart now) who hated my guts gave me more respect then that.
The worst part? Judgemental morons have good intentions. But they know not the harm they cause. their fear consumes them. And it's out of control. Plain and simple. If someone shows they're somewhat open minded at least (in other words consider something other then your own viewpoint) then sure. Someone close minded talking down on you? Noooope.
I can actually get into being insulted and degraded. So you know it's serious when someone crosses the line. That line is a simple one. Dishonest, mistrustful assumptions. Lies.