Tired of Being Strong

Tired of Being Strong

KittyisWatching​(sub female){Protected} • Aug 25, 2020

What do you do when it feels like your Dom no longer cares for you as a person or a sub, but instead only what you can do for him physically?

What do you do when you're still completely in love with him, can't leave him, and can't talk to him about it because he will brush it off.

What do you do when you're tired of being strong?

Devotedsub​(sub female){His} • Aug 25, 2020

You do what's best for you. You remember your worth and remember what you deserve and how you need and desire and what you deserve. And you don't accept less. But I do recommend talking to him and telling him how you feel. It's important that he knows how you feel, not only is it important he knows but it is good for you to be able to let it out. If he keeps brushing it off, that in itself tells where he is and what is important to him. Do what is best for you. Just always remember YOU matter. You deserve to be listened to and you deserve to be cared for and not treated as just a physical object.
It isn't easy, when we love someone... They lead us to believe the same and we no longer really know the truth, we hear the words, but the actions don't match up. The actions are what count. And it hurts when you love so hard and you just don't understand why they are behaving the way they are. I hope that you will do what is best for you. Please just don't forget, your feelings are important...your needs and desires are important, you are important and you matter!

Re: Tired of Being Strong

Tthomas • Aug 25, 2020

When a sub is silent it is like unread chapters to her Dom.

The problems with that is....
Chapters from which one of her books she is carrying
The book of fear
The book of loneliness
The book of uncertainty
to many more to list.


Please do not get caught in the...

Why didn't you tell me?
why didn't you ask? trap

Tell him, tell him now.

Taramafor​(sub male) • Aug 25, 2020

Talk anyway. No one gets away with neglect or responsibility. Maybe if you paid a bit more attention to me I'd be more fun.

those talks can get ugly. But make it about responsibility instead of blame. Why are you in the current situation? What past events caused that to happen? How can you adapt and improve on that?

Or do you expect silence to find the answers for you when it never has?

Shit yourself. Shit those brick. But we both know you'll be living in fear if you don't face it. Avoiding the situation isn't being strong. It's being weak.

There can be moments even I stare at a screen for 6 hours, worrying someone will get the wrong idea the moment I try to explain. It's rare. Those people have bigger problems though. There's a reason they get suicidal. Because they know full well they bring the bullshit on themselves. So maybe the best thing to do is call them out on it. You know you jump to the worst possible conclusion and others are wary of you for it as well. It's not even about me/us at that point. It's about how you pull crap and act like you know it all when you never asked or found out. THAT'S why you hate yourself.

Sometimes people will resent you for it. But they could also end up loving you for it in the end. All depends. But if you don't call out bullshit you LET yourself get taken advantage of. If you don't show you have a spine why should someone care? Stand up for yourself and value yourself.

BigBubbles • Aug 25, 2020

End it and move on. You have the answer in your questions. If he would brush you aside, he doesn't care. If hes using you , he doesnt care. My advice may seem harsh, but by staying you're only causing yourself more harm. Care for yourself more than he does. The quicker you move on the quicker you can heal. 💜

Grey Eyes​(sub female){Owned} • Aug 25, 2020

My suggestion is communication first. And don't make it accusatory, because this is about how you feel. For instance..."I would like to talk to you about my thoughts, feelings and things I need from our relationship". Instead of "you don't give me enough attention....you don't love me, etc". Be prepared that he may come back at you with changes of his own.

If nothing comes from your conversation or he makes it clear during your conversation that he is not going to put forth more effort....then it is time to depart from the relationship. Time for you to take the opportunity to heal yourself. You can truly say you tried and won't wonder what if I had talked to him one more time before I left.

House Talion​(dom male) • Aug 25, 2020

There is no strength within your silence. Speak up and make sure you're heard, speak you heart and ensure they know how you feel, and make it known that this is not what you signed up for and it needs to change. That's where you're strength is.