Is this acceptable?

Is this acceptable?

Mydelilah​(dom female)​{juststeve} • Feb 5, 2021

I received a letter from my submissive's former Domme.
Is this typical??
My gut says this is over stepping.
Read or no???

ManchesterMaster • Feb 5, 2021

I would take to your sub about it and see what they think about it.

SirYesSir​(dom male) • Feb 6, 2021

When it's over, it's over. Or in the immortal words of Satchel Paige... " don't look back. You never know what might be gaining on you."

House Talion​(dom male) • Feb 6, 2021

I'd saybread it with the idea you may not be able to teuat what they say.

Summer B • Feb 6, 2021

I think it really depends what their relationship was like, what the motivation for reaching out was, and they said in the message(s).

Taramafor​(sub male) • Feb 6, 2021

Well, for a start, you're not even aware of the contents of the letter if you haven't read it.

You have noting to lose by being aware of the situation. You risk everything in assuming the worst. Get the facts.

As for "acceptable", don't ask others. Decide for yourself. But they wouldn't have sent it to you if they didn't want it read. Will you "listen" or not? That's the way I see it.

Ingénue​{VK} • Feb 6, 2021

If you've joined a website and the former Domme is on it too then the letter could have been sent with a range of motives. There aren't set rules around these matters.

Whether you read it or not is entirely up to you as you didn't request the contact.

The way you have framed your response suggests you think it is overstepping. Depends on the content. If the contents amount to overstepping, you're no worse off, as you'll have imagined it's that already; if not, the contents might be of some benefit to your current dynamic if you discuss them with your submissive.

Miki​(masochist female) • Feb 6, 2021

Start to read it, at least. If it's a crock of steaming horseshit, stop reading and discard

Whether it's proper or not depends a lot on the content...

I'd tend to say it seems to be "overstepping", but again that depends on what was written.

Highly unlikely but perhaps the former domme wants to let you know she's an axe murderer.. Never can tell these days.

(only 3/4 joking.. Being wary of nut-jobs out there isn't a reach.)

Mydelilah​(dom female)​{juststeve} • Feb 6, 2021

Thank you all for your responses. I appreciate seeing all the various opinions on this. So glad to have a space I can reach out too.

<3 MD

Kelpi • Feb 7, 2021

Oh hell no this is wrong in so many ways. What they shared is theirs not yours and what you shared should not go out to an ex of any kind. Is she looking to get back in touch or just looking to start trouble?