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T slave​(sub female)
Feelings
4 months ago • Mon Jan 22, 2018 8:21 pm
T slave​(sub female) • Mon Jan 22, 2018 8:21 pm
Does anyone ever feel desensitized to some of your feelings after years in the lifestyle causing you to question your limits?

Does it take more and more aggressive play to give you that euphoric feeling?
MissBonnie​(dom female){}
3 months ago • Wed Jan 24, 2018 2:10 pm
MissBonnie​(dom female){} • Wed Jan 24, 2018 2:10 pm
Bump..Short on time, so short answer.
I hated seeing this thread with no answer.
Ive been doing what we do, for a long time and I think I still feel the same way. My limits like a branch, have bent but never broke or altered. The shape might change but my limits as a Dominant, are just as recognizable today as they where decades ago. Hard limits are just that to me, hard limits!. To answer your second question. I still find my top space doing what I love. I do have days where I am more aggressive but if I am its for a reason or as part of my training/goal for that particular scene/moment.
evergrey​(sub female){Ashigeru}
3 months ago • Fri Jan 26, 2018 9:31 am
evergrey​(sub female){Ashigeru} • Fri Jan 26, 2018 9:31 am
I know what you mean, though for me, how extreme I can/want to play sort of comes and goes like a wave. For a while, I wondered "how far is this going to go?" In time, I discovered where my limits were, and re-discovered. Sometimes it's simply a matter of finding my level with a new partner, too.
cyndi lucy
3 months ago • Fri Jan 26, 2018 9:54 pm
cyndi lucy • Fri Jan 26, 2018 9:54 pm
I think so. It's like watching porn al the time. After awhile you become desensitized to it.
TalentedOptimist​(dom male)
3 months ago • Tue Jan 30, 2018 2:13 pm
TalentedOptimist​(dom male) • Tue Jan 30, 2018 2:13 pm
No. I treat my mental fitness like physical fitness. If i hit a plateau, the solution is not always to get wilder and more extreme with my workouts or content. But to hammer down the basics, explore what’s natural in a different perspective, and research techniques/environments of people who have kept their interactions inventive, fun and engaging.

To answer the question directly:

More aggressive play for same level of feeling?

No. I would suggest researching addictive behaviors and recent breakthroughs in neuroscience. Then instead of trying to get the same level, try a different scope of euphoria. For example, we all love to cum, we all like to see our partners satisfied, and most of us prefer to be engaged instead of just blindly ordered.

Moving on to the question “how far this can go?”

Well how far have you come? Compare progress and knowledge level of your partners to you and vice versus. How much have you evolved in the capacities that are most important to you and what are the basic principles of it?

Recreate the scene where you had your biggest breakthrough as a dom or sub. Ask the big deep, gritty questions before going into a scene. And so on. I don’t want to ramble: good job on this piece.
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T slave​(sub female)
3 months ago • Tue Jan 30, 2018 3:15 pm
T slave​(sub female) • Tue Jan 30, 2018 3:15 pm
Thank you to all of you for taking time to respond.
Talented Optimist I completely understand your answer and with the help of my Master will implement some of your mentioned practices.
Taramafor​(sub male)
Re: Feelings
3 months ago • Tue Feb 13, 2018 7:37 am
Taramafor​(sub male) • Tue Feb 13, 2018 7:37 am
T slave wrote:
Does anyone ever feel desensitized to some of your feelings after years in the lifestyle causing you to question your limits?


I imagine any and every relationship has the case of "getting stale". The way I counter this is to always explore. Always push my limits. Always get into new things and think "outside the box". Putting aside what others think is right/wrong.

T slave wrote:
Does it take more and more aggressive play to give you that euphoric feeling?


I like aggression right off the bat myself. On the receiving end. Never gets stale for me. Long as the caring approach is also in place. The "euphoric" feeling comes from knowing another cares enough to do that and know it's not a "harmful" thing. Even though it's technically harmful but it's in the process of long term happiness. Explaining that kind of thing can be tricky. The fact that you asked this question makes me wonder if you have such struggles yourself.