Steellover(sub male)
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3 months ago •
Dec 5, 2024
3 months ago •
Dec 5, 2024
I think the term "FLR" means different things to different people. And it isn't necessarily always what you think it is.
I had a friend that was in a Female Led Relationship. They didn't call it that, but that's what it was. Neither he nor his partner were the least bit kinky; they were in fact both about as vanilla as communion wafers. But she was totally domineering, demanding, bossy, intrusive, haranging, and an extreme helicopter parent- to the point where she burned herself out before she burned him and her kids from mental stress. A "Stella" to his "Harcourt Fenton Mudd." in other words (I hope some of you get that reference...) It was a female led relationship, and it failed.
For most of us, there has to be some balance. Some kind of life balance, boundaries, and mutual fulfillment. And for most of us submissives; and I'm speaking for myself here- there needs to be some "Spice." (I.e. kink.) A domineering vanilla relationship may be dominating but when it becomes merely domineering, without boundaries, balance, or any kind of fulfillment, it can become unsustainable.
But hopeless romantic that I am, I still believe with the right balance, understanding, chemistry- it could work- because I WANT it to work and want a person whose life I can complete- and vice versa.
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