The Nonsensical Blog

Pockets - You aren’t being selfish.

Jack in the box -
I suppose there might be a line.. .somewhere . . .
But if you feel reluctant, then you/they are not at it.

Lilandian​(sub male) - Haha Thanks FeistyMix, Jack in the box

dollMaker​(dom male) - Whom ever told you that you had too, does not have your best interests at heart. My advice stay clear. They are an idiot at best, at worst an abusing, wanabe, fantasist living in a deluded idea of what the lifestyle should be about. Just as many idiot dommes out there as doms.

'Yes I like working towards my chosen career, I like the company of my friends' none of these things excludes being submissive and someone's sub. Of course balance required so that you can be whomever's sub, serve them, so manage time, keep the top aware of schedules, work social life commitments. However they also have to balance their needs, against yours (yours are as important, and you ultimately have control, keep that in mind) and be mindful not to effect, impact your vanilla life. or harm it. Anyone who seeks to etc, walk away, and don't look back.

Lilandian​(sub male) - Amazing advice, thanks a lot!

dollMaker​(dom male) - No problem. Foundational stuff. Read the New Bottoming book, some great advice. Also submissives guide website and you tube channel, also loving bdsm website and youtube channel. Those are fem sub/male dom dynamic centric, but still solid advice in regard to submission in general. Worth looking at and reading.

Literate Lycan​(dom male) - It’s already been covered above by better comments, but submission does not mean giving up your life. On the contrary, a positive dynamic should allow you to flourish in all aspects of your life, to include advancing professionally and doing the things you love to do. I know a number of strong, alpha-type professionals who are submissive in their chosen dynamic - but it does NOT detract from how they interact with the rest of the world.

proudbbw - You aren't being selfish. You are being human. A Dom/me shouldn't expect u to give up things you enjoy unless it is something toxic or harmful to you, then I could understand some negotiations but just because you hold that submissive title, doesn't mean that you aren't human. (But what do I know, I still believe the ones with slave tendencies still have a voice, regardless of tht tendency🤷‍♀️)

Lilandian​(sub male) - Appreciate it proudbbw! and everyone haha

Bunnie - Anyone who is looking to *change* you, doesn’t know what they’re doing. In my opinion, all this is about is becoming who we truly are. If for you that involves a career, then the right person will understand that and actually utilise it to be a strength in the dynamic/relationship... not make you feel bad about it.

We are all different people with different needs. Making (consensual) sacrifices to meet demands is more slave territory than submissive... which is not a suggestion of “more” or “less” than, or “right” or “wrong”... just different folks and different strokes.