Ice Girl's public thoughts.

Sportsgirl55​(sub female) - Y unsolicited advice.... Be patient and diligent. Read not just forum posts, but people's responses to them, if you see someone who's views and desires align with your own, check out their profile and see if they have a personals ad up, or messages them and initiate a conversation.

I've been on here since 2017, and it's taken me this long to find a great match, with tons of potential for where things can go for us.... It's out there for you, and trust me, it's worth the wait!!!

IceGirl​(switch female) - I'm just venting I'm pretty sure its over for me and that realization helps me feel better about kinda publicly mourning how miserable I am.

I thank you for your positivity just that I know me enough to kinda be able to see what my lifes likely outcome is.

Max Heathen​(other male) - I'm a curious lil Beast... what Natural desire do you have that doesn't jive with your life?

IceGirl​(switch female) - The fact is for the majority if my life I despised the fact I was female. My family made me think less of myself and in many ways society kinda says hey for women to get ahead one of the ways is to be the "biggest" dick in the room.

I spent a good 25 years of my life trying to be the ultra don dyke tomboy top I thought I needed to be to achieve what I thought I wanted.

Turns out my inner desires don't care what I thought I wanted I'm naturally very feminine and sexually would enjoy being dominated especially by a man or extremely butch woman.

But I just can't let that happen I don't care that's what gets me off. I went down the wrong track too much of my life to change things now.

So I'm kinda just here to bitch and moan about my inability to cope with being a bitch at this point and its sorta a public eulogy to my happiness.

Max Heathen​(other male) - Have you ever tried sensory deprivation techniques to give your body what you needs? Perhaps afterwards switch and put on a strap to reassure your ego(the mind section saying you need to be masculine)? I'm a switch myself and sometimes this is the technique I go with so I can fulfill one craving without being in a fight over what role I should be playing.

B L O N D I E​(sub female) - You're still very young and young enough to have children. You are still young enough to change. I'm 51 and I'm still changing. I don't see myself stopping my growth until I die.

Why don't you try exploring with a dominant man just to see where it leads and if you can maybe lay aside some of your dominance? Dominant men are going to be much easier to find than switch males. You could start out by just exploring rather than getting serious and just see where it leads and how you feel about it. Just a suggestion.

IceGirl​(switch female) - Usually I get pissed off because I hate that side of myself I'm in pretty much all aspects of my life an alpha so to even be admitting that maybe there's another side to life because thats what I dream of and gets me the most off privately part of the reason I can even say it here is because I know I'm not gonna act on it.

B L O N D I E​(sub female) - I used to hate being a woman, too. I also hated whenever I lost control (or thought I had). It's been a long process of learning to love those parts of myself and realizing that they can be an asset rather than a liability. It can be difficult to confront the underlying reasons for why we hate ourselves, but in the end, it's critical that we understand that these are all lies we've been told by others and that we have internalized and are now repeating to ourselves. I'm ugly. I'm weak. I'm worthless. I'm disgusting. I'm a failure. Whatever the lie is that we're telling ourselves that is making us miserable. There are just as many truths that are the opposite of this. You're strong, you're beautiful, you're valuable. You're worthwhile. These are the truths that have to be affirmed and I would add to this that vulnerability is strength. Being vulnerable and responsive to a dominant requires incredible strength and self-acceptance. Not many people are capable of that kind of receptivity. It's a challenge and requires a depth of emotional connectivity and intensity that many cannot handle. Something to think about.

IceGirl​(switch female) - Wow your one if the first people who your words sound like i could have written them I used to and in many ways still feel those issues its ok though I am just used to hating myself for being a woman.

Which is why I don't see a possibility of overcoming these issues I been so traumatized The fact I finally have to admit why my other relationships failed is they didn't do it for me because I wasn't being true to what I found attractive is almost too much to deal with.

B L O N D I E​(sub female) - It's okay. We've all been there. Trust me. Finding out what's true for each of us and learning to love ourselves for it is a lifetime process. It's one that doesn't end and every single person on the planet is going through the same struggle. It doesn’t make you freakish or hateful or unworthy. It makes you human, and if you let it, it can connect you to others rather than isolating you from them.

IceGirl​(switch female) - I guess the main thing that bothers me is why do my actual desires not line up with what I thought I would want. I feel in many ways like my body kicked my ass lol.