Dominating From The Heart

I broke another vibrator! Is it just me or has the quality of vibrators gone down greatly. Anyone else have quality control issues with toys?

Everybody has that one piece that makes them feel sexy, amazing, unstoppable....for me thigh-high stockings. 

I love them. I wear them on those days at work when I know I'm going up against whomever my payrate says is my superior, but my skills make him my bitch. They're like my super hero costume under my clothes, Clark Kent. No one knows my true identity. 

So I haven't been on here in a while to post. Some of you are aware why. I am not prepared to go into why just yet, but at some point, I do intend to explain my craziest year ever! 

In the meantime, I have a debate that I need input on. Here is my personal belief in speaking with a potential sub, when negotiating/developing the terms of the relationship, the Dominant can be flexible in what they will or will not do without regards to kinks the sub likes but if a Dominant has certain requirements or needs and the sub is not into those kinks or rules, 100% it's done.

Currently, I have a Dom friend who says that a Dominant should be willing to flex more since there aren't as many in the community as in vanilla land. Compromise should be from both sides.

I see his point of view for those who are only sexually dominant, but not if you're 24/7.

Thoughts?

A submissive should always submit. Even if their Domme/Dom is not around the sub should be completing tasks and training. Being submissive is a lifestyle choice and it requires self-improvement. This means the submissive needs to take personal responsibility to maintain themselves and their character even when not supervised or even collared.

I know I am cutting this close but it was a very long day. 

There is such a thing as pose training. Every single Domme/Dom has their own favorite poses and in most cases, they have their own terminology. It's a good idea if you go from one relationship to another to clarify what a bow should look like, where to put your hands when you standing, when to look down, how to sit, and how to kneel. It may sound odd at first but we are demanding and complicated because that's our right when you submit.

Short one I know...but some of you are short All the time ;)

Listen boys and girls,

Know yourself, please. When interviewing subs, especially noobs, when we ask, "What do you like/dislike?" and we get the following answers:

1. "Whatever you like,"

2. "I will do whatever you want,"

3. or the worst "That should be your decision, shouldn't it."

This irritates me so much because it makes me do all the work. You can't be rewarded or punished if you don't have likes or dislikes. Do your research and find out what you like and dislike and be able to present yourself honestly. If you don't know, have the decently to say you don't know. If you want to try because you don't know if you will like it make sure you're willing to communicate your feelings afterward. Sometimes you need time to reflect but make sure you set up a review time with your Domme/Dom.   

I am so much more detail-oriented than most Dommes and subs. It's very frustrating to ask questions and getting poor answers. So I am challenging subs to sit down and really think about why they are submissive. If you want to impress a possible Dom/Domme being able to present yourself properly. If you are unowned and are interested in mentoring, start with a journal.

Day 1

Write out your top five goals you want to accomplish as a submissive. Be descriptive. Words are important.

Single again but I am not heartbroken. I have a lot of rules in my life. Number 1 no toxic people, not just in the relationship but friends and family. If you chose to include them in your life then I don't want to continue a relationship. The best thing for me is to move on. I want so many things out of life and one of those is to be in a relationship with a man who can handle all my needs.

Winter can suck the sexy right out of you. Frumpy clothes, multiple layers, dull colors, dry skin- fuck all that! There is a way to fight back, plus the multiple layers mean you can take your naughty side out of the bedroom without anyone even knowing.

It’s a real high walking around your family and friends at Christmas parties wearing thigh-high stockings under your jeans, holding in weighted Wan-balls shoved up your pussy while unwrapping gifts, sitting down to dinner on your anal plug, a family photo shoot with your breasts jeweled or clip-on nipple rings, and all the time wearing sexy lingerie only you and your partner know about.

Don’t forget it's Christmas, so you can tie a bow around your partner's cock or use double-sided tape to gift wrap your breasts or pussy and make a real gift of your body. Once I put a bell on the ribbon I tied my subs cock with. It jingled the whole time we were at his mom’s house. When we went to his office party I gift-wrapped his cock and told him that if he tore the paper he would be punished. Sure enough, the paper ripped in several places. So I shoved slices of lemon in his mouth and pegged him until he had sucked the slices dry.

I love the cold!

Why are so many subs so argumentative and rude?

If I am asked for my opinion, why are you assuming I am lieing?

So three men asked the same question and I gave the same answer, and all three went a-hole. "What size do you prefer?" My answer is and will always be it doesn't matter. I have had good experiences from all sizes and terrible experiences from all sizes. There is no way I will ever say a big dick is the only good one, just because a few did better than the worst man I ever had. In fact some of my best lovers were small. But for almost reasons these three short cocks just can't accept that answer. So yes I have one really good 7 inches. But I had three better 5 inch boys, because they weren't trying to stab me to death but rather did what I wanted. And other 7 inch boys were horrible. 

So these three short cocks got all offended and basically hounded me but couldn't accept my answer. One went so far as to imply I lied and that I really prefer larger. All three said they needed a one who wanted larger man or they wouldn't be able to perform well. They would not be able to be with a woman if they couldn't be forced to strive to be bigger. 

Have we really passed the point were good sex is enough?

Am I crazy?