Dominating From The Heart

Monogamy is monogamy. 

Why are so many people asking, what do mean? Seriously. 

Oh obviously you mean cuckold is okay? No!

Well you want to farm me out? No!

Well you want boyfriends? No! 

Monogamy means monogamous relationship. No other involved. Period. If you want me to accept that you wanting to be urinated on is normal then you have to accept my lifestyle choice. 

Nowhere in my profile shows anything g that says I enjoy pimping. Learn to read. And don't tell me how I feel or what I mean. Fuck you. I can speak for myself. Everyone doesn't have to like the same thing. 

If you don't want Monogamy get lost. I don't have to conform to what you want. I want what I want. 

SUBMISSION IS NOT THE SAME THING AS BEING WEAK!

Here is the difference for those who don't know (like all but two of you men).....

Submissive men are confident men who can handle life without a woman but seek out a Dominant so that they may joyfully experience life with a partner, who is attracted to and not afraid to assume a powerful role of decision-making and control in and out of the bedroom to alieve the pressures of life. Submissive men and their Dominant share the responsibilities of their lives by mutual agreement. The Dominant.....is obedient to the need of their submissive man to assume the Dominant role in the manner he needs. The submissive man......is willingly able to participate in the selection process to form a healthy and stable relationship.

Weak men cannot function without anyone controlling their life. There is no sharing of responsibility. There is no participation in the selection process and find themselves in dangerous, manipulative, and unsatisfying relationships (if they are even in one). They are exhausting, always underfoot, and constantly seeking attention. These men also are poor communicators who do not have any idea what they want. They practice a lifestyle that appears to be submissive. They are not able to realize a true D/s relationship when right in front of them. Nothing ever makes them happy, so they jump from one relationship to another. They usually suffer from depression, have multiple addiction issues, are unstable financially, unemployable or difficult to keep employed, and generally seeking a Dominant to "fix" their life.

There are times I have been with weak men because I was once stupid and I thought I could fix them. Those relationships made me realize how important safety is. I not only have been with weak men who claimed to be submissive but weak men who claimed to be Dominant. If I enter another relationship and that is going to lead to marriage and co-habitation that I will be allowed to receive a full background check, credit check, review of accounts and debts, and a drug screen. I think that is more than fair and would also show the same curtsey. 

I get a lot of compliments and critiques about my profile, contract, and blog. I love the compliments and enjoy the debate over my critique. Now since I posted my ad I have received several offers and had several conversations with men who want to either be my sub or Dominate me. 

Now I'm polite to all and hear them out or tell them off. But I get rather frustrated that I gave this very detailed description of what I want and yet I get terribly vague offers. Or worse, I get answers they think I want to hear. If I ask, "What are you willing to do for me?" and the answer I get is "Whatever you say. Whatever you want." Seriously, I already said what I wanted. How are you unique? What makes you worth my time? 90% of all offers revolve around sex. Boys, please! If you paid attention you would know that I am not just about the sex. If that's all you are about you are a waste of time. My vibrator is great in bed! You need to know what you like or want, or if you're a newbie at least be willing to talk about things.

I know that some men can't communicate and some communicate way too much! Even though I want a quick turn around on starting a relationship, talking about moving a relationship forward and making plans is not the same thing as offering to move in next week. Talking about what you want in a relationship or marriage is not the same thing as proposing in an email. My profile, contract, and blog do not cover everything about me. I'm not into online roleplay.

Don't tell me what you think I want to hear. Tell me the truth or go away.

Everyone, it seems, is so surprised by how exact I listed out what I want from a sub. I have been called cold-hearted, too procedural, and of course by male Doms in desperate need of a "real man" to stiff me right. In fact, I spend more time defending myself from male Doms than I do speaking to potential subs about my offer. Now a lot of people feel the right to tell me not to care and let it go, but I have every right to defend my view on the life I want.

I have been in several bad relationships that led me to want to be the primary Dominant in a relationship. I am not just looking to beat on a man or to find a slave to support me. I can and do support myself. I don't need a sub I want one, but not like a toy that I will get bored with. I want and believe that a Dominant and sub can be in love. But...I do not want to waste any more time with men who don't know how to say what they want. So to save time I laid out the majority of what I want. I think the total pages to my contract is at 10 pages and may be expanded on. There is nothing wrong with being direct and saying what you want.

No matter how many times I say let's discuss the contract some men cannot handle the conversation and push past it. They clearly are not looking for a Female-led relationship, they just want the BDSM side, which is fine. Each person is entitled to find what they want and need from a relationship, but I want more than the right to spank his ass. I want to be in control. I want a man who wakes up every morning wanting to do anything and everything I ask to make me happy. Regardless, of how amazing the male Doms think they are, I am just as confidently-cocky in the knowledge that I am worth it too.

Go ahead throw your little tantrums, boys, but shut-up saying you want an honest woman!