Militant's Madness

Savida​(other female) - The way many (but not all I will grant) masters describe wanting to treat their slaves is on a more advanced level than most people entering into this life are really ready for in my opinion. I’m not saying you couldnt be in a more gentle M/s relationship, since Master and extreme sadist aren’t remotely the same thing , merely that the loudest M voices are saying things that are probably terrifying to newbies or those who aren’t masochists.

It’s a big deal to be a slave and give up that level of control, and it’s really not for everyone. Nothing wrong with that, but it really isn’t the right dynamic for every relationship and in my opinion not often the best choice for people who are newer or have a lot more room to grow in assertiveness/communication because I think someone giving up that much power needs to be very sure and to have a bit of experience under their belt to truly understand what they’re getting into.

There’s also the chance that the people who told you those things simply weren’t interested in being a slave. I respect that some people do want that, but I wouldn’t be one of them, so like Shynikita says, if everything is consensual and the people involved are happy and there’s no abuse and everyone is being taken care of appropriately ...I say live and let live.

I said all this to say this—M/s is serious business and all people saying they aren’t interested in it or are turned off by it aren’t necessarily misunderstanding it, they just may not like it or may have different needs that an M/s relationship can’t meet, which is perfectly valid.

dollMaker​(dom male) - Well said. Master/slave is a very advanced type of dynamic and not to be entered into lightly or (in my view) by those new to bdsm. Start off with less advanced types of play, dynamics and build up to this, if its something you really feel called to. Not wanting to be rude, and this is my perception based on your words, I don't think you fully understand exactly what a M/s dynamic is, otherwise I don't think you would say what you have said. I am at this 13 years and I would not want to enter into a M/s dynamic, because it is so advanced. I know my limits in regards to how far my experience and skills would take me in this and they don't take me far enough to engage in an M/s dynamic. And to be clear my experience isn't just online, but physical world as well and I started off doing what I do for nearly all of those 13 years physical world and online later into my journey.

MilitantSoul​(dom male) - I agree with you. It is an advanced dynamic not for everyone.

I like the fact that you are willing to question my words, it shows commitment to values.

I stand by my words and please feel free to message me of you want to discuss it farther I love a good discussion and do very much understand the Dynamics I speak of.
Look forward to hearing from you