Militant's Madness

Savida​(other female) - To be fair, the words master and slave mean things out in the world—they don’t just belong to BDSM. For example, if anyone tried to call me their slave they’d get at least two new assholes because that’s a personal limit of mine because of what that word means to me.

If someone else out there has similar thoughts about the words Master and slave, It makes perfect sense that if they aren’t comfortable with that dynamic and that’s all you know of BDSM that you’d think it wasn’t for you.

That being said I do think it would be better if there wasn’t just one thing people who are new, exploring or outside this community thought of when they heard BDSM, because there’s a niche for everyone. Just because one thing or dynamic doesn’t suit doesn’t mean nothing else will.

There’s also the chance that those people understood what M/s was and just didn’t want that—it’s not for everyone. It’s a pretty intense dynamic and a hard thing to just go straight into with someone, and I’m honestly not sure if I think it’s the best choice for a person feeling their way out—I think many want to slowly play around the edges before making commitments or giving up quite that much power.

Please note I’m not coming down on M/s, I don’t care if other people want to do it and enjoy it, I just don’t share that interest and can see why others would also be hesitant, especially if new.

MilitantSoul​(dom male) - Good response.
Yes, I am familiar with the generalities you describe that have become BDSM and I agree with some of them. Kink community is a broad group, BDSM gets even smaller and even still D/s portion of the three pillars of BDSM is smaller as it should be.

Working together our community can help educate people on the BDSM portion of kink and it's three pillars.