Beautiful Disaster

Literate Lycan​(dom male) - In the right dynamic with the right Dominant, yes.

CSI - Ditto ^^^

Cinnamonbeauty​(sub female) - I guess the key is finding the right one😊 . Maybe one day I will. Thanks.

L a r s​(dom male) - Hey, someone else with social anxiety here.

When I was an ra at my college, I was responsible for organizing floor events, attending meetings, training and orientation, and having hall meetings on our cramped, crowded space. All of those were just a wonderful fun time.

The basic mindset I had was "I am not responsible for having social anxiety, but I am responsible for letting people know." Know what exactly? How and when it would affect me.

I also worked with a gentleman who had aspergers, and a tenuous at best understanding of social boundaries, haha. He and I did have some difficulties, but worked things out with communication.

My advice, in general, is to understand the global social average, as it pertains to boundaries, communication, personality, etc. You are NOT required to conform to that (virtually no one fully does) but it saves a lot of hassle if you can communicate to folks how you diverge from that. Folks WILL expect you to somewhat conform to a societal standard. Communicating those differences is a good solution.

Max Heathen​(other male) - Sounds like the pendulum mindset of extremes. I agree with LL, once you find the one wherein you're on positive side then you'll find the right Dominant to be a sub for. Good luck in the hunt!

Cinnamonbeauty​(sub female) - Thank you, it's not as severe as it use to be. I'm working on it. And I got to a point where I can talk about without feeling ashamed about it. Lol. I know I have no reason to be ashamed now but the younger me felt that way.

Max Heathen​(other male) - Isn't that seemingly the way of youth! lol We think we know it all while being ashamed that we don't and can't say anything because then other's will know (as though they didn't already) BUT... Then we grow up & realize, OMG how much time I wasted 😑😂😂

Cinnamonbeauty​(sub female) - 😄I agree completely. I wasted to much time.

Maxorde{Not lookin} - There is a Dom for you out there. Just as many Doms spend a lot of time looking for the right sub. I applaud your efforts and your courage. Good luck in your search and never be afraid to ask questions!

Cinnamonbeauty​(sub female) - Thank you, I appreciate your words of encouragement.

EclecticRhetoric​(dom male) - That's good that your able to talk about it. Take every day one at a time.

albuka​(sub male) - You seem to have a great self understanding of yourself. I love that. I think you could be a great sub. There is not a Dom out there who would not like someone who can look at herself inside and out and say. "This is who I am".

You also can look at yourself. " when pointed out". And ask. Did I step over the line. Such a great self awareness.

Thanks for sharing.

Cinnamonbeauty​(sub female) - Thank you for reading it. And thank you for your comment.

CSI - I think I can be and can completely see myself in this writing, so I am going to believe that you certainly can be as well. It will take time, but when you find the right person, it will be magical and amazing.

AdamDragon​(dom male) - You have a great understanding of your self and your inner core. So the answer is yes! You can and will be a fantastic sub. Patience will show you the right path. You will know when your Dom is calling, if he hasn't been already. Trust in yourself and what you know. The amazement awaits ; )

Cinnamonbeauty​(sub female) - Thank you. 😊

TheAnt​(dom male) - As all above me have pointed out, it really comes down to a match with the right Dom. Your feelings are not without merit. Once a sub finds her Dom, she finds that she is now part of him and he part of her. Most aspects of what we define as ourselves no longer is relevant or as important to either member of the dynamic. Its not that you change per se, its that you find yourself more in tuned with the Dom.
-DA

Cinnamonbeauty​(sub female) - I want to say thank you to everyone. I wasn't expecting such great feed back. You guys made my morning.