I don't know who needs to hear this, but you are not alone.
2020- 2021 has been a very stressful year for everyone. I for myself have found my drive and desire to be dominant very low.
This has been an absolute shock for me as I believed that my kink was such an important part of my life.
I've been active in the lifestyle for 8 years. The pandemic has affected the buisness terribly. This has increased the stress and workload and anxiousness to the next level.
I had started a dynamic with an amazing lady. But idk suddenly what happened 15 days back , I lost all zeal or excitement to try something with my lady .
Truth be told, I'm just exausted. I'm just running on auto pilot. I don't know what I want.
Often, dominance can lead to real "executive fatigue." Yeah, you're making all the decisions but that can be exhausting.
If anyone else dominant or submissive is going through the same , trust me there's nothing wrong with you.
Stress affects everyone differently, and losing the desire to step into a position of responsibility seems like a very reasonable stress response. When things are tough in life, you are much less enticed by the idea of taking responsibility for someone else's life too, even in small ways. Don't let yourself forget that you, yourself, are a whole-ass person, not just a dominant of whatever persuasion. Sometimes other parts of that person are going to need your care and attention as a priority, and that's okay.
