People have asked me about who I am and who I am as a Dominant. There is a short answer, as well as, a long answer. First and foremost, what you see is what you get. If you have read my blogs and profile, it should explain a lot about who I am and what I believe.
I identify as a “Daddy” since I am big on nurturing and caring for my partners emotional and mental well-being. I am not talking about DD/lg. I am very compassionate and loving towards my partners and, as a Daddy does, believe in discipline and reward both. My Discipline is to train to what is expected. If she knows not what is expected or how to do it the correct way, it is up to me to train her. I want to make sure that my partner knows that she is loved and cared for at all times. I am always looking out for her best interests in life and dynamic. I take full responsibility of any Power Exchange that takes place.
The “Sir” side of my also exists and is ever present. My expectations are to be met. If they are not and she has been properly trained to those expectations, there are consequences to the actions. I expect that respect is given at all times, whatever the situation may be. Each and every action has a consequence. Good, bad, or indifferent. With that being said, I respect and honor her. I know that it is she that has given me the authority, by choice. It is of her own free will that she has submitted to me. Whether the PE is light or it is TPE, she has decided her level and I work within those boundaries. I will help to stretch her boundaries by providing a safe and trusting place for her to explore and to move freely within the realms of her sexuality and submission. I will help to guide and walk with her in her journey.
I believe in the use of contracts, short term first working it’s way to long term. They spell out, by mutual agreement, the boundaries of the dynamic, what is expected of me, and what is expected of her. It is a reference point and a safety measure.
I use journals, for myself as well as my sub. They can be read by either. It is a way for us to express feelings and or situations that are taking place that we may not want to talk about face to face at the moment. As a Dom, it allows me into her headspace so that I may be able to reflect on the situation and adjust accordingly. And the same for her so that the both of us can be proactive. The rule is that we cannot bring up what is in the others journal to the other person. It may only be brought up by the person that wrote it if they do choose.
I will not enter into a dynamic without relationship. For me personally, because of my traits, it becomes a deep emotional connection. When I take on the role of Dominant, I pour all that I have into it. I do not leave anything on the table. So I need to protect myself, mentally and emotionally. Any that have seen my posts can understand. And I know that some reading this will already know.
I am always learning. There is a lifetime of knowledge out there and I don’t know everything. But I am open and willing to learn. I can learn from Dom and sub alike. When it comes to knowledge, I don’t discriminate. If my partner has more knowledge in an area than I do, I will not hesitate to be “Topped from the bottom” until I can confidently take it on my own. (Communication is always key).
That was a lot of information and I hope it is clear enough. As I stated, I have had a few people ask so I figured I would just clarify it publicly and then take any further questions as they come.
~Eros
As an added note, I will not and do not expect anyone, that is not my submissive, to use “honorifics” with me. If we are kidding around that is one thing. Or if you choose to use it, that is your decision. But I do not expect it. (Needed to make that clear)
