This writing can be applied to all genders of subs, however I am writing based on my experiences as a woman and as a submissive. I’m sure there are opposing feelings about what I am about to share... These are my own thoughts and there’s nothing wrong with either opinion if believed in by both parties in a relationship.
So what I’ve decided to share with you all is that I am quite tired of being treated as less than. I’m a bad bitch, I have opinions, I have sass, I have self respect and it all works into one strong personality. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a super soft and squishy person, I have my insecurities, I can even be a bit shy at first, none of that takes away from who I am and allows someone to walk over me like I'm less than them. This is already a problem women face but also submissives. Everyone, not just me deserves respect and decency. Everyone includes both doms and subs.
I’m a submissive. I love to submit, it is a part of who I am... and not to mention it's extremely hot to have a dominant partner control you haha. Anyways, for me it takes a lot to submit to someone. I have trust issues, I am scared sometimes, but it’s not just that. A dom needs to EARN my respect, my loyalty, and my submission. Having someone submit to you is a PRIVILEGE not a right. I’ll submit to the person I believe has won over my trust, loyalty, respect, and who I deem is deserving. Just because you are a dominant it does not mean that you are put on a pedestal and are superior to anyone, let alone a submissive. Until you earn the submission of a sub, you are on the same level and there is mutual respect required. It does not mean that you deserve some magical level of respect that you did not earn.
Listen, I’m not saying all doms are like this, many are not and everyone has their own reasons as to why they act certain ways. I have all kinds of respect for dominants. As much as it's a privilege for doms to receive the submission of their partner, it is also a privilege to receive the pleasures a dominant provides in allowing you to submit to them. Dominants take on a lot of responsibility over their submissives and it's truly an amazing role that should be noticed and appreciated. I’m sure there are submissives out there that enjoy an automatic authority presented by some dominants and if they both enjoy it that's great, all the happiness to you both! That is just not me. If I communicate to a dominant that this behaviour is not going to be tolerated, it doesn’t make me any less submissive. It means that I’m not going to put up with that attitude and that if you don’t like what I have to say I’m clearly not for you, don’t attack my personality or my position as a submissive. If you can’t handle a strong woman on the outside and a submissive little kitty behind closed doors then I’m not for you honey.
In summary, love yourself, respect yourself, respect others, and spread the love!
With love and cuddles,
- Kitty 🐾
