While I'm working on my long-form fiction/erotica, I figure it'd be a good holdover to post the song I obtained my username from; there seems to be a lot of overlap with music appreciation and kink
You love him
You want to make him happy
He loves you
He wants to humiliate you
He's a bastard
You should leave him
Paranoid manipulator
To hell with him
He's dragging you
Around
On a leash called love
Björk was a little more edgy and playful as part of the Sugarcubes, but has still retained her clever, frank and sensual lyricism that brings her visual and auditory artistry together. She is one of the many female artists that have helped me broaden my horizons in how I think about sex, gender and relationships, and I'll have to work on that as a blog series in tandem with my erotica project in progress. But, back the the song:
I thoroughly enjoy the tongue-in-cheek references to D/s, while acknowledging the darker thematic context of abuse that's not so flattering, but also important to keep in mind when sailing the seas of kink. And also, like BSDM, Björk, especially when paired with Einar (the Fred Schneider-like vocalist yammering along with her), is definitely not for everyone. The tumultuous, borderline dissonance and clumsiness that is so endearing (for me) in the Sugarcubes' compositions is a perfect fit for the uncomfortable topic.
On a broader note, please share any songs with D/s themes or references that you enjoy, bonus points if you've adapted them as your username.