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2 years ago. June 9, 2021 at 4:42 AM

As a sub I want to make sure my domme is happy and comfortable. I also want to make sure I’m the best sub I can be. The thing I don’t hear about a lot is during and after care for doms/dommes. I have heard a little bit about how to give doms/dommes after and during care but not a lot. When I find the right domme for me and make sure I’m the right sub for them I want to be able to give them what they need for their during and after care. I know communication and words of affirmation are key but I want to learn what more I can do to make sure my domme is happy with the dynamic we share. The only thing I can think of is letting them know that it’s okay and I want what is happening. So I want to learn what more I could do. I’m doing my best to learn on my own and being inexperienced makes it a little hard but I’m determined to be the best sub I can and learn what I can. I know during and after care is different for everyone and you should talk about it with your dom/domme. However, if anyone has advice or tips on this I would greatly appreciate it.


Also I hope you’re having a good day/night. If not I’m sorry, I know it can be hard sometimes, hang in there. 

Likeavirgin​(sub female) - I think your heart and desire to make them happy puts you in the best position to learn already. As you stated, it will be different for each, as each relationship is different, but your want to please will help guide you. Don't overthink it 💛
2 years ago
Literate Lycan​(dom male) - As has been said before by wiser Ones than I, when a Dominant gives aftercare they are receiving it in return. For me, this is very true. I don’t have advice so much as comment that you seem to have a great perspective. Communication - letting them know that what you two are doing is ok and is what you want and need. And letting them know what YOU need for aftercare is instrumental in allowing them to rise to that occasion and be the Best Dominant for you.
2 years ago

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