Dressing(dom male)

The cradle of wisdom

To me, thinking is something anyone can do. But just as you can practice anything in life, you can practice thinking. What sets you apart, then, is critical thinking. Your ability to see reason and logic. To construct arguments without fallacies or biases. It is important that you keep challenging yourself, and open yourself up to being wrong. And essentially, there is no shame in being wrong, but there is great shame in being wrong, and refusing to admit it.

With that grand introduction, I welcome you to my personal thoughts and musings. I can't promise there will be something for everyone here, and what I do end up putting up may be scarce. However, I always appreciate feedback and I enjoy debates. So if you have something to share, by all means, comment or message me directly.

That wonderful feeling, yet....

3 years ago. June 14, 2021 at 1:53 PM

I love the feeling of success. When you aim for something, and you achieve it.
It feels wonderful to get it done, it feels wonderful to be recognized and acknowledge by people you look up to.
But why is it, that as soon as you get home, you start to cherry pick apart what you did, and find flaws no matter how well you did? I seem to have a habit of expecting myself to be perfect, especially if I expect myself to be good at something. I've even tried to get incredibly upset when something good happened to me, because I myself didn't believe I was good at it, and being told I was good broke my own image of myself.

In any case, I'll try to deal with these emotions since I just got over a huge hurdle in my life. Short update, I know, but whatever!

AndySmiles(sub trans man) - It’s like waiting for the other shoe to drop.
You have this predetermined image of what you want to happen and, at the same time, what you assume will happen because “that’s just your luck” or “that’s how your life goes.” And whenever something bad does happen, it’s like fulfilling a prophecy of what you think you deserve.
Mostly, that has to do with your upbringing (what you learned from your parents/adult figures, as well as events that happened to you and or you were exposed to that conditioned certain methods of thinking in you) and your overall mentality (anxieties, self esteem, self worth, etc etc).
There’s no “cure” for this type of feeling/thinking per say, other than adding an additional thought process of consistently reminding yourself to calm down, enjoy the moment, be prepared for whatever may happen that you can reasonably prepare for, but do not internalize and don’t wallow in unneeded self pity.
It doesn’t always work, but it helps after a while. Like the paper bag when you’re hyperventilating lol
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3 years ago

simplegirl - Sadly, not everyone was taught to "think."
We're all broken to some degree. It's the choices that will lead you out of your discomfort. I agree with Andysmiles -
Our parents play a role in this unwanted emotion, but in all due respect, I'm afraid I disagree with
(no cure) there is hope for change, but it hinges on you. I hope the best for you.

3 years ago

OraclePollon(sub female){NotYours} - May I offer some personal view? Perhaps, as is such with me, I no longer think my achievements are valid because of the people whom I have allowed congratulate me. For so long my accomplishment was met with superficial accolade. My entire life was a "What have you done for me lately" and even my major accomplishments in life, never got me the lasting pristige that looking back, they should have. I no longer let these people take my achievements and manipulate them and let them only last temporarily. I am reclaiming those achievements and my new ones for myself. I hope you can too!

3 years ago

OraclePollon(sub female){NotYours} - And Congratz! On whatever it was. It seems to be important enough it is making you question, and questioning is good! So way to go on your success!.

3 years ago

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Dressing​(dom male)

The cradle of wisdom

That wonderful feeling, yet....

Dressing(dom male)