Not many of us have the ability to be open books to our family by blood or who were are and what we do. Not to make light of it but at times I think it would be easier to tell my family that I was a serial killer and that I had ten bodies stuffed under my bed. I'm not, just to be clear. What I am is "Kinky and a Freak". My adult daughter ran across my toy box and asked questions. Without getting to detailed it ended with thinking its "gross" as she tags friends on Facebook about the new trailer for 50 shades. She gets it but I'm "mom" ; mom isn't suppose to be kinky or a freak.
So I have my second family. My family not in blood and genetics but in kink and lifestyle. Well no, not exactly. None of us have the same kinks and we live our own lifestyle a bit differently but we understand and accept each other because and in acceptance of those differences. Well, most of the time. Just as with an actual family, we at times have drama and that one or two crazy "uncles or aunts".
Some we see or talk to on a daily basis. Some its just once a month or year at those "family functions" (munches and parties). But its always great, for me anyway, to reconnect and renew spirits with those who share not genetic traits but ideals. To share both sides of our life freely both vanilla and lifestyle without fear and judgement.
Everyone needs people. And as great as the online community is, there is something that face to face and actual human contact gives, that a computer screen can't give. To see the look in ones eyes that they understand and empathize, or the hug of caring arms. It's just not reached with clicking keys or the blinking icon.
I truly feel for those who by location, circumstance or fear feel like they can't engage in a local community to find a family. We are out here and in many cases closer than you think. Always willing to accept another sibling, cousin and even crazy Uncle Al. It may not be a large family you find and it may not be exactly what you wished for but what family is. You don't get to pick your blood family but you love, accept and support them. Same here when youre willing to do the same.
I encourage you to find your real life kink and freak family. I'm signing off this blog to get ready to get ready to connect with mine.
Much love from this crazy Aunt Nevermore.