Okay so I'll try and make a brief one for a change.
Basically, what I've observed over the years is a generalization that goes a bit like this: Dominant females tend to think "What can he do FOR me?," and submissive males tend to think "What can She do TO me?"
There's gotta be a happy medium in there. Guys- it's not all about kink. This is a partner who you love and want to be with and worship like a queen, so listen to her when she tells you how to make her happy. Let her be your queen. Outside of just the hot steamy bits of the relationship, I mean. Women- well, what can I say; us guys do like things kinky. Is what it is. Just like any relationship, it's give and take. Hopefully when two people get together they can have both of their mutual needs met.
(Cue the long-haired-mustache-dude-in-a-white-tank-top youtube guy...) Anyway that's it for now. See ya.