Ghosting

Submissively Your's​(sub female) - No means no. And of you have to stay no contact because you're concerned that you will get back with him, then do what you need to do. The only person that will ever have your best interest at heart is you.

Best wishes!

And don't let anyone make you feel bad for standing up for yourself.

Cozubia​(dom male){She’s Mine} - You are in the right here, no doubt. If you say no and the Dom doesn’t respect it, then they are ignoring the boundaries and rules of consent. You can’t trust someone who doesn’t respect the basic principles of the lifestyle. You have to protect yourself. So stay strong and continue with the no replies with the Dom. Ignore him completely.

duchessbutterfly​(sub female){NotLooking} - Learning to respect the word "no" is his training in becoming someone's Dom.

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - I was in the same situation (just different circumstances). I had to end it and my Dom kept calling and texting. I had to go "no contact". After a while, he reached in in a SEEMING casual, platonic manner and mentioned he was in town and asked if I would like to get together for "lunch or dinner or whatever". I told him that for my OWN mental health, I had to say no. I knew that my residual feelings for him, for what we WERE would influence my thinking and I would slip back into a relationship with him (thinking that "it's just one time").

No means no...even for yourself. If you have to guide yourself like you would a friend, do it.

Tazzie500​(switch male) - In no way are you wrong, you, like many others have your set limits, and they should not be crossed unless you want them to be.

And for splitting up, then i agree with you on everyway,
But for housing him, i can understand why, as you think he going to make you feel guilty in not being a perfect sub,
And will make you feel its all your fault and that you should go back to him

But you could send a txt saying its over
As he not respect your boundaries and not accept no when things get to much for you.
Also...
Who is a perfect submissive???????


But as many people here are saying
You are not wrong in walking away
Take care, as there are some nice Dominants out there who will treat you properly

SirsProperty​(sub female){TX Alpha's} - As you know, submission is exchanging power, giving consent, and trusting him to take care of you. It also means being strong and confident enough to take that power away by using your safeword, discussing hard limits, or ending the dynamic when you no longer feel safe.

You are right, your hard limits are your hard limits. You are the only one with the power to change them.

You were strong & confident enough to protect yourself and take your power back.
Never feel bad or guilty for taking care of yourself.

Max Heathen​(other male) - Training to push a hard no without consent is not training, it's intentionally going against your verbal contract. That is an unhealthy relationship and you shouldn't feel sorry for ghosting him. He didn't listen, he doesn't care about what you want in the relationship and it was most likely his joy to push you to this point.

I'mME - newsaint,
I'm sorry that you were with someone who had no idea what they were doing. I'm sorry that they are a doofus. I'm really sorry that they did not respect your NO. I don't know where you met this person, I don't know whether you did any reading, take a BDSM 101 course, and it doesn't matter. At the end of the day, newsaint, it's about consent.
Consent is what allows us to enjoy TTWD (These Things We Do). If there is trust then consent is part of our safety (for both sides) net.

Consent is/can be the difference between TTWD and abuse..

If you were saying no and they kept going , it's assault. No difference then if you were strangers. No MEANS No.

It doesn't mean, I talk you into something.
It doesn't mean I keep asking until I wear you down.
No doesn't mean I can bargain with you until you agree.
No doesn't mean that II just wait until the middle of a scene or whatever and then guilt you out of your No.

I could go on, but quite simply, you knew enough to have some limits, they agreed?
Then they decided to say fuck her limits, I want this and that, and fuck her limits.

Hmmm, what if you were tied and told them something was pinched or that you had enough, and they said fuck your limit, what you are telling me,. I Know what I'm doing.

You end up with nerve damage or worse , you think they are going to be around, the one that said fuck her limits.

Basically what they did , is said, Fuck You, bc it's about what I want . .. You don't get any limits bc as we all know that limitless is the way to go..

Right?

This person is not a Dom. Period.

Purple Freesia - You are not wrong; never feel guilty for taking care of yourself!!!

LaVieEnRose​(sub female){Kintsugi} - No means no, I’ve been in that situation and eventually also had to just say enough is enough!

However, having been on the reciprocating end of being ghosted; I find that behaviour a bit shitty. I get where you’re coming from but personally I would just write him a message explaining exactly what you’ve said to us and the reason why you can’t have a conversation but would like him to know why you’ve disappeared but you will not be speaking with him directly.