Rose's Thorns.

A general pondering.

Controversial

3 years ago. May 14, 2021 at 11:25 PM

So this is going to be a bit controversial.....

I have decided i hate modern feminism, its bull crap. I will explain below, this is my personal perspective, i don't expect others to agree or disagree just using my blog to share some thoughts.

So yeah, ive come to the conclusion third wave feminism sucks. Im putting this here because if i put anywhere else i will get it in my ear.

Why?

Well let's have a look at what third wave feminists did for me. Just to be clear i have no issue with previous versions of feminism.

A single mother working from 6am till 11pm trying to 'have it all'.

Sat outside in the rain for hours whenever I forgot my key. Or feeding my brother when work took over (more often than not). You either learned to cook or you didn't eat.

My dad kicked out, being baby sat by an alcoholic grandad was great (sarcasm). Nevermind the 'cuddles' from my stepdad.

So why do i blame third wave feminism?

Because my mum was so busy trying to 'have it all' she almost killed herself more than once through overwork and often forgot she was just that a 'mum'. I have done something similar with work .... its not good.

It's considered empowering to not shave, not shower .... sod that. It's like peer pressure to self neglect.

The best book i have bought recently is dita von teese, everything you need to look your best. And yes the lady at the book store gave me evils for buying it.

Women can tear each other down just as much as building each other up.

So to third wave

I deserved a farther, i am human not a possession for you to 'own' and live your unfulfilled life through while calling it 'empowerment'. God its exhausting. Yes she is still trying. Not to mention being used as an object for leveraging family members. One day i will share this story, im still trying to get my head around it.

The encouragement to walk away from happy relationships sucks. No need to make it work be popular by fucking around. The concept that relationships don't require effort is ridicules. Not to bother because the world is full of sexual partners is just ****. We have moved to a different kind of disposable culture and im not a fan.

Its interesting that as third wave feminism peeks BDSM is becoming more popular.

Because here is the dirty little secret.... women too often tear each other down in the name of sexual politics and competition. This was usually obvious but im wondering if it's become more underhanded recently. Just a thought.

Now ... the no bra bregaid, some women need bras okay. Not everyone can go no bra. If you can and your happy good for you, but its not everyone who can.

.... should have seen the look i got buying ditas book was as though i betrayed the entire female species..... but here is the thing we are told about mindfulness and yoga or whatever the new thing is.... but the best thing i bought was a dressing table. Seriously. Helps me get ready for the day not just physically but mentally too.

So yeah .... ive had it.

WhatamIfightingfor(dom male){CurvyB} - Even some of the founders of feminism have disowned it.

3 years ago

rosethorn(sub female) - Why am i not surprised, they just wanted to get rid of the competition lol

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WhatamIfightingfor(dom male){CurvyB} - I like what Diana Rigg said " Women have always had the advantage."

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Bunnie - I was just having a discussion yesterday wondering about that very thing. To be honest, I did suspect that may be the case.

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HGB(sub female){Scottish M} - Hay you do you. Try not to hate in those who do different.

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rosethorn(sub female) - Just wanted to put a different perspective out there. Seriously should have seen the look on the store assistant when i bought ditas book, thought i was going to burst into flames haha. On a side note my eyeliner has gotten better.

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rosethorn(sub female) - Who said 'i hate those who do different' ? That's quite an assumption made about me. i would suggest that you follow your own advice and don't hate those who do different to yourself either. Each to there own.

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HGB(sub female){Scottish M} - I didn't say you do it was just a statement. A lot of that could have been perceived is putting down people who don't doll up.

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rosethorn(sub female) - Can also be seen as judgemental of those who choose to

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HGB(sub female){Scottish M} - Like I said you do you. And I'll do me. Peace out

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rosethorn(sub female) - Good for you :) that's what im doing for me too. Each to their own. X

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WhatamIfightingfor(dom male){CurvyB} - "They walked up, chips on shoulders, ready for a fight. When the brawl was over they wished they had know they were on the same side."

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WhatamIfightingfor(dom male){CurvyB} - known*

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MissBonnie(dom female){oz} - oh do I ever hear you! I"m Femdom enough said LOL its amazing how many assume Femdom , Female supremacy and Feminism all go hand in hand.
I'm all for female empowerment but its also should be about empowering women to be the perfect woman they "WANT/NEED" to be for THEM no matter what form it takes. You should have RIGHT to do you best YOU. Didn't it all start over the right to be what you wanted and not shoved in a box and labeled.

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rosethorn(sub female) - Thanks for your input. Like you said its about what works for you and we are all different, boxes be damnned lol x

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Max Sterne(dom male){Morley} - A father's perspective.

My daughter is 19 and I love her mire than my soul and the blood that pumps through my veins. She is a beautiful blonde haired, blue eyed girl who is one or the kindest and sweetest people ever.

I also see how she struggles with guys with the non stop condemnation because she wont immediately send nudes or put out on a first date.

I got the pleasure of knocking some piece of shit down as I jogged with my daughter because he and his buddy wanted to start making cracks about her "bouncy fucking tits" as we tried jog down the trail.

The thing is these are not just one off incidents. It is a regular occurance. What troubles me more is the attitude of so many people who condemn her simply because she wants a real relationship and could do with a little less "does the carpet match the drapes" comments.

I get it, SJWs go too far, but what I fear with the anti-SJW backlash us the expectation that my daughter has to be a slut even if she doesnt want to be; its her place for being born female.

This modern trend disturbs me.

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rosethorn(sub female) - It's a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation. Im glad she knows herself well enough to say no and be happy with that. The pressure is insane on young girls. The concept of a relationship has gone in many places now. Lack of farthers for both young men and women really hasn't helped the situation. I also read about the size of family shrinking meaning some now don't have cousins or brothers and sisters so struggle with how to treat people of the opposite sex.

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Bunnie - Oh I sooooo look forward to having a space for a dressing table. Love, and agree with your blog.

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Bunnie - And now I’m also very curious about the book :)

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rosethorn(sub female) - I used to struggle every day getting up and i still have difficulty every so often but my little dressing table, cleansing lotion and cup of tea has done a miracle. Also the book has things like manicure and pedicure in it, not just make up. Its one of the reasons i like it. Even shows you how to stretch and get knots out of your back. We can be so busy we forget to look after ourselves but it's important.

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rosethorn(sub female) - Just wanted to say a huge thank you for all the input. Xx

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MissBonnie(dom female){oz} - I forgot to say Dita Von Teese is amazing. she is a walking, talking sex bomb, yet there is little to no "flesh" on display. she seems to have a sexuality that glows internally from her.....yet takes none of the normally "assumed sexual ways" to show it . she takes a sexy is more approach, in an age where the less seems to take the lead. She thrives in a world based on sex, yet remains most clothed and ladylike. She is such a walking contradiction. I love how she shows "sexy", yet doesn't need to be "trashy" (if you don't want it too. I'm not knocking those wish to shown this way,, no slut shaming from me.. I just love the fact she thrives doing the reverse of the "expected" )

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rosethorn(sub female) - She owns her femininity in way that's rare now. She is so classy, apparently a huge chunk of her fan base is women

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sexycurves(sub female) - Never heard of Dita Von Teese. Now I have to get the book😀.
All my life, I've never understood why we should follow societal trends and expectations.
When people mention what women have done to improve lives of women in terms of equality, I remind them that it means that we now have the choice - so many people forget that. It's not that I don't appreciate their efforts and actions, I do and I show that by making my choices that I have because of them.
I agree that feminism has gone weird and the definition of the word is lost or forgotten.
I could go on about this forever.
Personally, I shave when I want to. I have a manicure, pedicure when I want to. I wear make up when I want to. I like the feminine stuff and furniture, so I have it. I have refused overtime for the same reason - it's my choice.

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rosethorn(sub female) - You hit the nail on the head the word is 'choice'. There is an odd expectation that because others sacrificed something you should too on solitary erm... nope. The point is you have a choice. It's almost bullied out of you that it is a choice now. There are things i choose not to have in my life but i don't expect other women to do the same thing 'in solidarity' that's just unfair. We all do what is best for us and i love my dressing table. Really recommend ditas make up book, it's got a lot more than make up in it, like how to get rid of knots in muscles.

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sexycurves(sub female) - Love this post - I forgot to say 😀

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