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Rose's Thorns.

A general pondering.
3 years ago. October 6, 2021 at 2:32 AM

I seem to find men attractive quite rarely and there seems to be a theme emerging.  One that's quite awkward. I seem to find myself attracted to men who i then discover are gay. 

 

My first boyfriend turned out to be gay. 

 

My ex partner of four years (male) was straight but adventurous and eventually liked bottoming and some other activities. It wouldn't surprise me if he turns out to be bisexual. 

 

Now i meet someone at an event get embarrassed talking to them ( I very rarely find people attractive). So it took me awhile to realise why I was embarrassed, because i found him attractive. A quick look at his social media and he is clearly openly gay. 

 

.... There seems to be a reoccurring theme happening..... I'm not really sure what to make of it other than gay-dar (if such a thing exists) might possibly come in useful.

 

Just be clear this isn't an excuse after being turned down but instead me wondering why I seem to fancy men who happen to be gay. Nor is it me thinking i can change someone, i don't discover they are gay until afterwards. Which can be quite embarrassing after already flirting with the person.  

 

 

Seriously tho.. do you know how frustrating it is to be attracted to gay men? Maybe its a sadistic masochism thing.

TranquilStorm - Arghh i am a bad person smiling about someone else's misfortune. To be fair, your rendition was quite good. By any chance, did you raise a fist to the skies with a low-key "why?!" and glare at the universe?

Hmm hard to tell without knowing your exes but extrapolating from my own experience, maybe you are attracted to people being comfortable in their own skin or being on the path of finding themselves. There is a beauty in itself of seeing someone becoming more the person they want to be. Maybe that is what attracts you to BDSM and its whole shebang.



3 years ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - I did think about shaking my fist. I think you have a point there about people being comfortable with who they are. There's a sort of peacefulness to it.

Im also wondering if its leather too... but I haven't worked that out and its close to bdsm ?
3 years ago
Moonlighter​(dom male) - Maybe its not because they are gay necessarily, you mentioned meeting him at an event right? Chances are he put effort into looking good and that's what attracted you, not because he was gay.
3 years ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - It just makes me laugh that it keeps happening
3 years ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - Update: realised its leather im attracted too, there just happens to be a large gay scene within it. Slightly embarrassed now.
3 years ago
Grapefruit​(dom female) - The older I get, the less I'm attracted to men and the more I'm attracted to women. Physically and mentally.... I just find I enjoy them more, I connect with them more....


And for the most part...
They smell far better.
3 years ago

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