I seem to find men attractive quite rarely and there seems to be a theme emerging. One that's quite awkward. I seem to find myself attracted to men who i then discover are gay.
My first boyfriend turned out to be gay.
My ex partner of four years (male) was straight but adventurous and eventually liked bottoming and some other activities. It wouldn't surprise me if he turns out to be bisexual.
Now i meet someone at an event get embarrassed talking to them ( I very rarely find people attractive). So it took me awhile to realise why I was embarrassed, because i found him attractive. A quick look at his social media and he is clearly openly gay.
.... There seems to be a reoccurring theme happening..... I'm not really sure what to make of it other than gay-dar (if such a thing exists) might possibly come in useful.
Just be clear this isn't an excuse after being turned down but instead me wondering why I seem to fancy men who happen to be gay. Nor is it me thinking i can change someone, i don't discover they are gay until afterwards. Which can be quite embarrassing after already flirting with the person.
Seriously tho.. do you know how frustrating it is to be attracted to gay men? Maybe its a sadistic masochism thing.
