evergrey(sub female){Ashigeru}

Ev's kink corner

I've been around a few decades, and have a bit to say. I'm not going to call myself an expert, but I'm happy to share my thoughts on BDSM.

Sadly, I'm gonna have to ask a few questions.

3 years ago. December 31, 2020 at 1:00 PM

I, unfortunately, feel like I need to start asking certain questions really early on, when considering getting involved with someone, before I am at risk of catching feels. Questions like:

1. Do you vaccinate?

2. What conspiracy theories do you believe in, if any?

3. Do you think higher education is a good thing?

4. Is diversity good? Should ethnicities and cultures mix?

5. Are you cool with trans people?

6. Do you believe cis women are capable of rational thought, and can make decisions based on critical thinking?

7. Do you think the vast majority of scientists and/or medical professionals are a part of a conspiracy of lies meant to control you?

8. Does enjoying freedom as a member of a society also come with responsibilties to your fellow humans?

9. Is might always right?

10. Do you think you are a shitty person, and if so, are you genuinely working hard to become not shitty?

11. Can you feel empathy and compassion for people you don't know?

Zhivago - Very good list of questions. I'd like to know many of the same things about someone I'm getting to know I just never thought about making a list like you have.

3 years ago

evergrey(sub female){Ashigeru} - Yeah. I have to stop assuming that people are reasonable adults who care about other people.

3 years ago

Zhivago - One thing though... Is that people who believe conspiracy theories don't think they are conspiracy theories. They think they are true realities.

3 years ago

evergrey(sub female){Ashigeru} - Yeah, unfortunately you are right, there. I could probably use the language they use, like "deep state" and "mainstream media is all fake news" and "the truth is all suppressed" or some shit.

3 years ago

Zhivago - Or just ask "where do you get your news from?" Or "do you mind wearing a mask?". Those answers tell me all I need to know.... And they kind of making asking some of the other ones redundant. 🙂

3 years ago

evergrey(sub female){Ashigeru} - Heh, so true.

3 years ago

littleMagpie(sub female) - Ooooh also - the mask thing - I've spoken to many who LOVE masks etc for kink fun, but oh it's so vile to have to wear them to keep people alive. so differentiating might be important too.

3 years ago

Zhivago - True. I didn't think about that

3 years ago

evergrey(sub female){Ashigeru} - Oh my goodness, yes. I should ask about masks.

3 years ago

OraclePollon(sub female){NotYours} - I agree with you. I always ask the rough questions pretty soon after meeting someone: what is your financial situation, religion, political view. I am not looking for a play mate, I am looking for someone to mesh with. I will not follow someone who only has their best interest at heart, so I need to be sure that their ideals sync with mine. Some things you can't just pretend don't exist, and they will cause undue troubles if not addressed, you also can't change these things many times, so why waste your time liking someone you can never be with?

3 years ago

Zhivago - Why does their financial position matter?

3 years ago

OraclePollon(sub female){NotYours} - I did not say it mattered, I said it needed to mesh. It should be important to know if someone is stable in life, financially and otherwise, they can sometimes be related. I ask because it is touchy to some, but it doesn't mean you should go through life naive to your current debt or liabilities. Money is the easiest thing to lie about, or rather, avoid answering.

3 years ago

Zhivago - I found that a lot of women think that wealth and spending are the same. For example, my dad was a multi-millionaire yet we lived on a small income because he had all of his money invested. a lot of people don't understand that you don't get rich from spending money... You get rich from saving money and not spending. I use it as a filter. I tell women that I don't spend much and if they don't hang around then I know they're just gold bricking.

3 years ago

OraclePollon(sub female){NotYours} - I like that strategy! It is so easy to live paycheck to paycheck these days, no matter how much you make.

3 years ago

littleMagpie(sub female) - I had never heard the phrase "might always right".
Thank you for posting so I could learn.
And I find conspiracy theories fascinating, not because I buy in to them but the way people really really do...it's awesome.

Wise questions, good luck!

3 years ago

SouthernDahlia(sub female) - I would fail the questionnaire. I lack all empathy in every aspect of my life.

3 years ago

wildbabe - This is GOLD!

3 years ago

Zhivago - Empathy and compassion huge factors for me now. I realized that most of my past relationships were with abusive women. So, if someone has never given to charity, volunteered their time for a good cause, or helped out someone who is less fortunate... Then that is a major red flag to me.

3 years ago

TheAnt(dom male) - Evergreen, I ask if they are a Trump supporter. It generally answers all but question 3 for me. While it is possible that they support him and there may be some different answers to the other questions, if they do support him then their automatic answer for questions 10 and 11 rule them out.
-DA

3 years ago

evergrey(sub female){Ashigeru} - Whelp. This blog post aged pretty well, I think.

3 years ago

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evergrey​(sub female){Ashigeru}

Ev's kink corner

Sadly, I'm gonna have to ask a few questions.

evergrey(sub female){Ashigeru}